Hey mamas..

My oldest is 4 today..
Still not using the loo or potty and as you all know.. it's big school year this year..
He's terrified to sit on the potty and toilet.. I've tried everything I can think of.
Whiteboard pens on the back of the toilet.. letting him see that I sit on the toilet, leaving the potty in the room where he can see, sitting teddies on the potty.. even letting him watch his little brother trying the potty..
He's still just as terrified..
I've asked nursery nurse and health visitor they suggested half of what I've already done, Nursery are on the sidelines too. I will be talking with his nursery again on Tuesday when he is there..

Please, any help, advice or suggestions are greatly appreciated ❤️
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We brought a mini tool box from b&m (it was the only thing that had sections), brought a pack of her favourite stickers and then filled it with her favourite sweets.
1 for a wee
2 for a 💩
Bribery was the only way for us. It worked a treat though. Excuse the pun. Not sure if I was because she was younger, and sweet were everything, but maybe worth a try.

ah thank you! Never thought of that xx

Our little boy was the same with his poos up until about Christmas and like you tried EVERYTHING! We tried saying if he does a poo on the toilet we can go to the toy shop etc. but he is very stubborn 😂 I then thought of he could actually see 'prizes' in real life it might help, so I got a lucky dip bag (spent about £50 in B&M's on loads of different bits - some bigger ones some small and some books etc.) and left it in the bathroom. It took a few days maybe a week but he eventually did one and let him pick a prize. This honestly worked immediately, he then went back and kept doing tiny poos just to get prizes 😂 x

that sounds amazing! I will have to try something like that..
I have thought about letting him have his tablet with him? Xx

We had a potty box! It was full of new toys, books and snacks but he was only allowed to look in it if he sat on the potty! He could play with the things whilst on the potty only. That way he was enticed back each time. I topped it up a few times to keep it interesting. 😀

also a fab idea thank you xx

Hey! I know how hard this is, we used a sticker chart for my son and he loved it, he had a sticker on his chart and on his top. And once he wasn't scared we went cold turkey and only put him in pants in the day time and rewarded him with stickers everytime

we've tried the sticker chart.. not working at all.. we still have it up, he points to it but when we ask he shakes his head and cries xx

in our community

Am I wrong for getting upset?

Long story short. My cousin made a group chat for bridesmaids and groomsman to plan out bachelorette party.
I sent one text about finding a sitter and my cousin texts me to stop saying stuff like that cause no one gives a shit? As if no one else is gonna mention their personal lives during planning a trip of 10 people?
I. Put the screenshots. I got so hurt I told her just count me out if the mention of my kid offends everyone.

Appropriate age to go out

I am the kind of person who struggles with being at home all day, not good for my mental health. I have a 1 month old and I am trying to start doing things with her. Like going ti the park, running errands. But people seem surprised and kind of judgy that I am out with the baby at her age. Is this wrong?

Having a bit of a sad day

I don’t know if I want advice or just to get it out a bit.
I had a bit of a rubbish Mother’s Day, and then today had a falling out with my mum.
Very long story short, me and my partner turn 30 this year and were thinking of taking a short trip (2-3 days max) just the two of us to celebrate. Our son will be 2 by then.
We had discussed leaving our son with our parents and them sort of splitting having him (eg. My mum has him one night and my boyfriend’s mum has him the other two nights, or whatever we collectively decide on). They are both happy to do this.

Yesterday my MIL was pushing my son’s pram and got distracted and pushed it off the pavement into the road, a car missed the pram by about 5 seconds. This upset me a lot.

Me and my partner discussed this later on and I said it worries me leaving our son with her in case she does something like that. We also discussed the fact that my mum pays very little attention to our son when she’s with him and is absolutely glued to her phone (looking at social media etc) so we might just take him on holiday with us.

Then this morning I had a chat with my mum and told her we would probably just take our son away with us. She asked why and I mentioned the pram thing with my MIL so she said she would just have him- so I thought it was time to mention that when she’s with him she is glued to her phone and gets distracted and that it just worries me a bit. (For reference she’s been watching him before and because she’s been on her phone he’s managed to get half way up her stairs.)
She absolutely lost it at me. Called me rude etc.

I try so hard not to upset anyone and I’m just so so fed up now. I just wish it was simple and we could trust them to take care of him but they are both away with the fairies.

I want to talk to my mum but i don’t know how to approach it now. Just feel like i need a big cry.

Roles between a sthm and a working partner?

I started wondering if our arrangement makes any sense. When I was pregnant I saw a cute video of a couple where they sleep seperately, the mom takes care of the baby during the night, the husband wakes up early in the morning takes over so the woman sleeps a bit before he gets to work I suggest this arrangement to my husband and we both liked it. Since I gave birth to my 22 month old boy, we are sleeping separately, I’m taking care of everything. My toddler still wakes up during the night every two hours on average. I wake up in the morning to make his breakfast and drive him to the train station and pick him up later in the day. I clean and cook and take care of my boy, with no appreciation or thank you. If I say I’m tired it turns he’d say what are you doing all day or he’d remind me of how he’s paying for everything. I am emotionally and physically exhausted and I don’t feel this is how a team should work.

Water

My LO is 10 months old and I try and offer him water with meals but he will only take a couple of sips. I’ve tried adding freshly made apple juice to sweeten it a bit, in case this would entice him, but he still refused. I think if it’s not milk, he doesn’t want it, or it’s odd to him.

Any tips?

Teething

Does this look like she’s teething? She’s been so irritable, dribbling SO BAD, like I’m having to change her sleepsuit 3 times a day. Chewing on absolutely everything. She’s 4.5 months old.

Thank you ☺️