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@Lena oh bless you! That’s tough! I don’t feel it gets spoken about enough. Not sure how you’ve felt this pregnancy but I’ve been super anxious so I’ve spoke to the consultant and they are hoping to get me more help throughout my pregnancy because I’m not seeing my midwife often! I really don’t know what’s best, I like the idea of being in control the same as you but I’m shit scared about recovery! Do you have family to help? I would be relying on my husband and I think I’d feel awful! What do you think your gut is telling you to do? I suppose on a positive note we have time to decide xx
That’s good that you’ll hopefully have more check ups/help! I think it’s ridiculous how we get seen 6 times by midwives the whole pregnancy and only 2 scans 🙄such a joke. Both my parents and my husband’s parents live abroad. My parents would hopefully come for a bit but my dad has a demanding job and my mum doesn’t like flying without him anymore so they wouldn’t be able to stay for too long. I’m worried about recovery too but honestly some of my friends who had electives had a much easier recovery than I did so I really think it’s an individual experience rather than the blanket rule of “vaginal recovery is easy, c section recovery is hard.” At the moment my gut isn’t telling me anything so I really don’t know what I’m going to do. I do constantly think about it though and hoping after my birth choices appointment I’ll be a bit more leaning towards one way. Xx
Had a 3C tear and lost 2l of blood after my forceps delivery last time (after a long labour - baby was back to back) so been advised to have a C-section this time and taking the advice as the healing last time was so sore and really don’t want to have the same situation with a week in hospital and 3 transfusions (especially with a 3yo at home) got my date booked in already which feels really weird!
I’m 9 week’s postpartum & I had a forcep delivery & episiotomy Super sore down there. Is this normal guys ? I’m planning on seeing the gp tomorrow Xx
@Aamira unfortunately yes it can take many months to get back to normal, if not years. Definitely worth seeing the GP though to make sure everything seems to be healing ok
I’m having the exact same debate/dilemma as you. I found my first baby’s birth very traumatic and although I avoided forceps by milliseconds, I tore badly and had an episiotomy. I had bad birth trauma and it took me 8 months to feel “healed” down there. I have a birth choices appointment when I’m 24 weeks as I’m debating whether to have an elective this time to minimise the birth trauma as I’ll be more in control. It’s so hard to know what to do isn’t it? I just feel like whichever I choose it will be the wrong choice 😢. I’ve had lots of friends who have had very positive elective c sections but you just don’t know how you will find recovery but then again I had such a difficult recovery from my vaginal birth that I’m like can it really be worse?