Tantrums

Following bc we recently started having the same problem. I’ve worked with kids my whole life and I know the tantrums are normal but they are so frustrating that I’m open to learning new tricks or strategies and seeing how others handle it. Personally I stay super calm, try to see if there’s a need that needs to be met (hungry thirsty sleepy bored etc) and if nothing I offer helps, I just stay calm and quiet until she is done. As soon as she’s done I act like nothing happened and offer a choice of something to do (would you like to come rock with me or do you wanna sit and color?). It helps but my husband seems to have less patience than me so he gets frustrated and will yell “stop” or “quiet” and I feel like he makes it more difficult bc when he does that she gets more upset. When we’re calm she gets through it so much quicker.

Ok the feelings and hold the boundary. She is trying to figure out her world and her limits.

Another thing that helps me when the chaos is chaos-ing is to remember that you cannot calm chaos with more chaos. Be the calm in the chaos. Bring her level down to yours, don't bring your level up to hers

I let my toddler throw her tantrum.. they're little with big emotions, and they don't quite understand how to handle them.. and letting them express/work it out is the best, imo bc when they are in that state, its hard to get through to them.. when she's done/calm, I'll go back and try to talk to her.. and explain why or just give her a hug and tell her I love her and it's ok to be upset when things don't go her way.. Honestly, my toddler barely has any meltdown tantrums with me (maybe a total of 4)... but with her dad, I feel like it's almost every other day, and I wonder if it has to do with communication and she's frustrated with her dad not understanding her? I'm the sahm, so I'm with her 24/7 vs her dad only see her after work and during the weekends, and he seems to set her off all the time.. 😅😂

I made a calm down corner and a calm down corner in her room. I also made one in the living room and in my room and in the kitchen it may seem a little too much for some people, but I would much rather do everything under the book rather than pop, my daughter, and that is what I want to do when I get most frustrated with her there’s calm down corners and every single part of the house and she needs to go there. She cannot leave there until she is calm enough to come and talk to me about what’s going on mind you the calm down corner is in the same room that I am in if I’m in the kitchen if she needs to calm down, she goes into the calm down corner in the kitchen. I can see her. She can see me. She can calm her little stuff down and we can talk about it afterwards that’s just what works for me if that does not work for you. I am sorry and it doesn’t work for me all the time. Sometimes we both need to go into a calm down corner lol

Do you give her choices throughout the day so she can exercise her free will (within reason)? Such two choices of an outfit, a meal or activity. Do you let her occasionally “win”? When she gets frustrated what led up to it? For instance does it happen most when there’s a transition that she doesn’t want to do?