Do your kids play with other kids in the neighbourhood?

Like do they know the neighbours and play with them regardless of whether they go to the same school?

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I would. That said her best friend lives on our road as does 3 classmates. That said I don’t think we have that type of road.

My daughters only 5 so she doesn’t play out without an adult yet but already after school her and her school friends go over to the park or skate park to play together. So I think eventually they may do the same but without us poor mums having to stand there watching 😂

My son isn't of the age yet, but I'm all for bringing him around to his friend's house and letting him play, but I will let him play in the gradern. I want to be the parent who interacts with my parents.

Our neighbours' kids are the same age and they attend the same nursery

Yes & they don't go to the same nursery.

My whole childhood was filled with playing out with the other kids who lived in the blocks of flats. Waiting for that knock on the door asking my dad if I could come out. Sadly my daughter will never experience this. I don’t trust this world anymore to allow her to do that. She’ll start being allowed out on her own in year 6 and by that point she’ll be past that stage just like I was

I don’t necessarily mean unsupervised. Just in general. Do they know some kids in the neighbourhood and spend time with them (even if it’s set up by the parents)?

When my girls were younger yes. Next door had 2 girls and my 2 girls would either be there, or those girls would be at mine, or they’ll be out on the quiet cul de sac playing on their bike etc. now we’ve moved and it’s a new neighbourhood and there’s lots of kids out on the street riding scooter etc but he doesn’t play w anyone yet coz we’re still new. He has lots of play dates though since birth

No.
For one, all the kids in our neighborhood go to public school (so they're gone from 7am-4/430pm) & we homeschool.

But more so because we have different boundaries as families (we have them & the neighbors don't). The cops have been called multiple times because someone damaged another person's property or they take off & the parents can't find/locate them. They all let them have free range when we have a registered sex offender in our neighborhood.
My older boys are allowed in our yard & the green space behind us and our dog is with them at all times. Anytime our dog barks I can immediately tell if she see other kids and is excited, alerting people walking by that she's there, or on full alert/protection mode.

in our community

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

Partner no longer wants baby #2

Before our son was born we originally both wanted minimum 2 kids but we were hoping for 3-4. My partner found the birth traumatic to watch and also struggled a lot with the newborn/baby stage. He no longer wants to have any more children and it’s completely breaking my heart. I need another baby. We’ve spoken about it a lot and the options. He said he wasn’t COMPLETELY closed off to it so I asked him to try and work through his feelings and reconsider his decision. He eventually said he definitely doesn’t want another. I know that I will always want one and my feelings will never change. Do we have to break up or does anyone know anything else I can do to help change his mind? Has anyone else’s partner said this and then changed their mind? I don’t want to break up because I adore him and our life together and I’d hate to split up our family for “selfish” reasons and make my son miss out on having both of us together but I just don’t know what to do

Nursery funding

My child turned 9 months last week. I applied for government funded hours nearly 2 months ago and so well within the required timeframe for the April term, however upon receiving my first invoice without the funding applied and having questioned this, I have now been informed that the stretched funding doesn’t start until 4th May.

Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding

Jealous of my husband

I’m so jealous of him and it’s making me resentful. We have a ten week old and I’m jealous that he is at work all day. I’m jealous he can leave for lunch and actually eat an uninterrupted lunch. Take a phone call uninterrupted. Chat with a friend he runs in to uninterrupted. Even go to the bathroom when he wants uninterrupted. He comes home from work when he wants. He’s not on a set schedule. Some days are late some are early. It depends on when he’s done. I’m jealous he can come home at 10pm and shower, eat and go right to bed uninterrupted because I already have the baby asleep. He doesn’t have to worry about anything house wise or baby wise because I’ve done it all. Meanwhile I’m covered in puke and crap and smell like rotten milk. When he is home he is VERY active and helpful. So it’s not that. I’m just jealous his world hasn’t changed and mine has I guess. This isn’t something he’s doing wrong so I’m not sure how to get past this. I wish I could keep him home all day because that’s how helpful he is, but I understand he obv needs to work.

NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?