Baby #2 needs to be via egg donor

As a mum of a donor egg baby, I hear all your fears, as I had them too, but I can 100% say that I couldn't love my son more 💗x

@Jane how do you feel when people say “oh he has your nose” etc. it’s the little things that are getting to me is the weirdest thing!

I think it always makes you feel a bit funny, but more often than not it makes me happy. I also like to think some of my genetics did trickle in there too, so maybe it's not a total lie

@Jane I’ve been researching and they say the growth environment influences how the child will be and that the original person who grew the egg wouldn’t produce the same baby if she carried it instead. I found that really interesting, and reassuring. Do you forget about it most of the time? I’m wondering if it’s a constant thought whilst deciding but I’ve baby is here other things take up your headspace.

I think you do mostly forget, and when you consciously think about it, sometimes it's hard, and sometimes it's not. All I can say is that the love outweighs it all. It might be worth doing some counselling if its something you're actively considering, as I think that helps x

@Jane thanks Jane. I think it’s probably a bigger thought now that it would be later once the decision is made. I’m just reading that they can actually look like you too as although you can’t change the genes, how they are expressed is determined by the carrier and you have more influence than you think! 😊 You have been so kind replying, it’s good to talk with someone who knows! Xx

Anytime! Good luck with whatever you decide xx

Hi, just wanted to say I’m in a similar position - about to turn 43 and have a 3 year old that was conceived naturally after 4 failed rounds of own egg IVF. We’ve just started donor egg IVF for a sibling (we thawed and fertilised eggs today!) Obviously I’m still new to all this but already I’m invested and love those little potential babies, irrespective of the genetics. I went through premature menopause at 39 after having my daughter so DE was the only route open to us. We found it really helpful to join one of London Egg Bank’s free webinars for a bit more info. As for cost, we bought 6 eggs and it’s cost us about £12k including meds and the treatment cycle.

This is incredible Rebecca. How are you feeling about everything? How are the eggs doing? x

Feeling good thanks, the wait for news has been long but feeling surprisingly calm about it all at the moment. All 6 eggs thawed ok and 5 of the 6 fertilised but won’t find out until the morning how many made it to day 5 blasts - just hoping we have at least one to transfer tomorrow! x

@Rebecca do they do a guarantee with your plan? I’ve been reading you can do that, AC also pgt testing and gender?! Crazy!

@Rebecca hello! I’ve been thinking of you, how did things go? x

Aww, thank you! We actually ended up with 3 day 5 and 1 day 6 blasts so had one transferred and the other 3 are in the freezer. Official test day is Friday so trying to keep the faith until then! Have you had any more thoughts on next steps? x

@Rebecca oh how marvellous! Are you thinking of future children with the extra ones? I’m too old for anymore I feel so I’m just hoping one work, and soon before I’m really really old. I have a consultation next week to get more information and I’m looking forward to it! I’ve been reading a lot, and speaking to people and their children really look like them! Epigenetics are amazing! I knew nothing about it. Please will you let me know when you test, I’d love to share what I feel will be really lovely news coming for you. You’ve been so helpful to me and seen such a lovely person x

Hi Rebecca, just wondering how it went today. I’ve been keeping my fingers crossed for you xx