Feeling frustrated! Can anyone else relate?
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If they spend more one on one time together, he bonds with her more and will feel more confident spending more time with her. I think explicitly assigning him as the primary parent during evenings and weekends would help. If that is too vague, you can start with assigning him to a specific part of the day every day. We started with 1 hour in the morning since baby is least cranky during that time.
I can relate my husband has not asked to hold the baby all day. He cleaned the house and “cooks” but that’s all he did today. Nothing really to help me with the child. I haven’t shower and he is taking his sweet time to come out and let me go to the bathroom. I’ll look forward for others advice too.
I think focus less on what’s fair and focus more on how close to burn out you are, and you need him to bear more weight
Sometimes men don’t know what to do with the baby and be even scared and scared to tell you that. We as a women have a natural instinct… we grow the baby inside and our hormones and body is prepared for it. And I think it happens to 80% of the couples. It happened to everyone I know and to myself. So you are not alone. You can talk to him or just wait a little. My husband got more active since she turned 3-4 months. When they can recognize faces and voices.
Unfortunately this is just the way men are. I was feeling the same way and kept it inside until one day I burst into tears in front of him and explained that I needed help with certain things. Gave him a specific list. Since then he has really stepped up. I recommend communicating your needs before you explode like I did.
Have you said all of this to him?
Take it from me. Men have to be told what to do lol Don’t get me wrong I have a wonderful husband and he helps out a lot but they will let you do just about everything if you don’t speak up. Tell him what you need EXACTLY and go from there. Good luck!
I told my boyfriend something like this and he said 'you can just go do things too'. Communicate and then try handing the baby to him and make yourself unavailable until time to feed the baby. He's not not going to learn if he doesn't do it.
I would explain to him that you feeding and taking care of your baby is like a 24 hour a day job and that sometimes you need a break/time for self care!