Unhappy relationship
Show your support
I’m so sorry this is not a good situation to be in. But see if someone in your life can take care of your baby while you are in school? I agree, focus on school and get a good job that can help you both. Sorry you have to go through this. Stay strong.
Hey I’m just scrolling and saw this I’m in my 30s though… and I would look into seeing what kind of resources you can get… like talk to the school… you may not qualify for low income yet tell them your situation… like talk to a counselor and see if they can help you find help… and if you can go to a local women’s shelter and get resources and get a game plan going… start building up community! Friends, family… tell them you are trying to get on your feet and maybe they can help watch your kid… look up mutual aid as well… you got this! 💝
Sometimes schools offer care for students at a discounted rate or for free. Usually they are ran by those in the education department. Look into going to the resources the school offers. That’s how I got out of my very abusive relationship with my ex before my now husband. Stay strong! If you need to privately message me!
Do not get married! Once you are legally locked in things get so much worse, it becomes much more expensive to leave. His abuse will only become more calculated. Talk to your school about them potentially having programs, talk to your local benefits office with all your paperwork to see if you qualify for any programs like rent assistance/food assistance since you have a dependent & you do not have income you should be able to qualify for some type of program. freedge.org has a list of free food fridges , there are these things called mutual aid childcare collectives that can help provide community based childcare services. If worse comes to worse and you have to stay temporarily put everything you can into getting an education and a job, have a hidden bank account he knows nothing of, calculate how much it’d cost to live on your own with your child and save towards having at least 3 months worth of expenses.
I’m so so sorry! But I’m really glad to hear you want out because some women (like my own mom) stay in really bad relationships, or don’t realize how bad they are until it’s too late… If I wished anything when I was little it was for my parents to separate because hearing the constant fighting and seeing the unhealthy relationship affected me a lot as I got older. It’s easy to say “just leave him” but your situation is a difficult one and if you have no family close by it can become even harder! If you have resources like WIC, I feel like they can really point you in the right direction. There are tons of programs to help women out of abusive situations! Please look into it for the sake of you and your son! Praying for you 🙏🏻
This sucks stay strong, finish school and get out may not be the best advice but that’s what I would do.