End of our relationship ...

We've wanted our LO for years, struggled and through ivf have our beautiful miracle. But we parents cannot agree on parenting styles. I don't want to hear this should have been discussed before as never thought we would have our miracle. I'm very much gentle but my husband isn't. Believes bribes I.e if you eat that ill play, telling off when appropriate. This is coming to blows and talks of divorce.. I don't know what to do he won't listen wants to do it his was, he's a hot head. Shouts. I don't find it acceptable now we have a 2yr old. Anyone gone through similar or divorce with a LO

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There’s rarely one parenting style. We do a whole range of them. Gentle parenting, natural consequences, telling off, punishment when appropriate. When you’re not both in the moment you need to sit down now and discuss what things are the deal breakers. If you don’t have time normally then both take some leave from work when your child is at daycare. However if “blows” are literal then you need to leave asap.

If you’re unable to communicate about it, without things coming to blows. Maybe try marriage counselling before divorce. This should give you both space to hear what each other is saying and then hopefully you’ll both be able to agree some boundaries and meeting in the middle x

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@Cal Thanks Cal. Blows aren't literal. Tried to sit down and just gets heated. I don't know if I can come to a medium when he bribes and tells off as his methods. Will try and look at how we can better communicate. Thanks

@Chloe Thanks feels we need to help and such a shame to throw everything away but I just feel resentment. X

Even if you break up your parenting styles aren’t going to change because you’re separated? It’ll actually probably be worse 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Laura that's my fear, I won't be able to see when not there. I'm just struggling how I shift my mindset and resentment.

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