Buying things kids stuff for v day

Was this something that was discussed prior, or did you just say "this is what I want to do" with no input from him? I'm asking because he says "you have all these plans and I'm just supposed to go along with it". It sounds like he may not feel included in the plans, therefore now feels pressure to "find the money" for something he wasn't really aware of. I'd say maybe sit down together and communicate. You guys are on opposite sides of this holiday, but there's definitely a middle ground.

@Jaleasa he doesn’t like the holiday at all . He complained about his co workers doing the same thing with their families . I just want to show my kids that I appreciate them after being in a shitty situation.

I definitely understand wanting to do something for your kids. It's unfortunate that he can't put his feelings aside for the kids. Not sure if you have any finances of your own, but maybe you could stop by a dollar store and get some candies and activities for you and the kids (coloring books, crayons/paint, canvases, etc).

I wouldn’t even ask. Does he have complete control of the $? 5 dollars is 5 dollars. Even if you just get them the 1$ box of chocolates it’s still a nice gesture.

Make it free then he can’t complain! Take them to Publix they give free crayons and color sheets they even give free cookies to kids at the bakery! Go home and make homemade cards.

I understand how you feel. Get the treats! I think men feel these holidays are money grabs. I even have a friend who told me her ex-husband thought that the birthdays she had for her kids were not necessary. Trust me they were simple and beautiful with a lot of balloons, simple food and family. These are simple things that kids deserve. Perhaps have a talk with him and Come up with other ideas and use the word traditions. Tell him you want to do some traditions as a family, whether it’s linked to Valentine’s Day or something else of your own. Again, the same friend of mine told me she buys Christmas pyjamas and her kids open them up Christmas Eve, which is cute. I do many other things and unfortunately spend hundreds of dollars at the stupid dollar store because I will find any excuse to treat my boys. My husband used to complain at the very beginning, but now I’ve just become more elaborate with my birthday parties and as of yesterday we will now start a Super Bowl tradition.

And question… what does me mean by chill and decompress? (What fun family activity is that?) Kids have a lot of energy and interest in learning/doing things. Decide on an approx amount of time for him to decompress and then he better be on the same page with you. Goodluck!

I agree with him🤷‍♀️ valentine's day is commercialised nonsense anyway but especially buying stuff for kids? Too much imo