I am angry at my toddler and I don't like it
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Daycare... Kids act out with their parents. My daughter gets the stimulation and they do educational stuff all day. She came home and they taught her time out.. so I just say what they say and she puts herself in timeout when she won't pick up her toys or does something she shouldn't. I just went on maternity leave because I'm due soon with a 2nd and I'm leaving my 2 year old in daycare because it's structured and I can't be what she needs while taking care of a new baby and I don't want my toddler hating the baby because she doesn't get all my attention. She counts, she says her abc's and comes home fulfilled from her day.. I can not do what the sitter does and that's ok for me lol
one day at a time mama. its not always gonna be easy, instead of anger try and just calmly redirect. they mean no harm, they are only babies learning there way around.
I don't have a toddler but I am so sorry You are going through this.
Chances are she's not acting out for no reason. Might be a reason you don't know yet, but doesn't make it no reason. Does she maybe find loud or busy situations stressful or overwhelming maybe? It may be that she's more sensitive to input than other kids her age. And while I'm certainly not saying this diagnostically or anything, but meltdowns in overwhelming situations was my parents first clue I might be neurodivergent, since girls are less likely to have early delays in speech or the like. I know I'm autistic and started speaking at around 10 months and was speaking in 4-5 word sentences by 1.5 years, so delays sent always indicitve, even in girls. And again not trying to label her, just saying that there may be things going on that you aren't aware of, and finding out what they are may be very beneficial to dealing with the outward behaviors
If you are freshly postpartum, have you considered postpartum depression? In many cases, it can show up in the form of aggravation and even rage instead of sadness. I didn't know this and suffered through until my younger son was almost 18 months old. The dr gave me meds and I am doing so much better (though two autistic kids being themselves still make me grumpy sometimes)
I am currently pregnant and have a toddler moving into therenager territory and it has been tough. I get so frustrated at the drop of a hat. She screams and shouts which is new for us. But it sends me 😵💫 I feel bad but we are both going through a lot. Try to be gentle with your child, and I say try because I know the struggle, and try to be kind to yourself. This is a big transition for both of you as well. Hope things get better soon. Sorry you are going through this.
Thank you mamas. I had depression before and now with two children I can't say that i feel good mentally...I am so exhausted...vulnerable, and angry not having a rest and help I am thinking to go on strong antidepressants to help me to survive this
I'm on Zoloft. No shame in asking for help.
Managing frustration is something that takes time, but try not to be too hard on yourself—she’s a toddler, and this is actually very common. It won’t last forever! It might even be sensory-related, or that may be her way of communicating her frustration. If you’re really concerned, it wouldn’t hurt to mention it to your doctor. And don’t worry about what other moms think—every child is different, and you’re doing your best. You also mentioned having another baby, so lack of sleep could be making everything feel even harder. Give yourself some grace!