Marriage problems

When I was pregnant, my husband went out with his friends one night and he ended up getting drunk and they went to a strip club. His friend had to drive him home blacked out. The whole time I was panicking, thinking something had happened to him because he lied to me about his location and he just stopped replying to me that night. It was completely out of character of him to do this. Now it’s been two years and I still bring it up. I feel like it might have not been so serious but he really hurt the trust we had. I just need advice cause I don’t feel the trust is being rebuilt even though he hasn’t done anything since then and has been working hard for me to trust him again. Any advice?

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Are you in therapy?

I think first you bringing it up even though it’s in the past is only hurting your trust further. It seems that you still don’t trust him and are still hurt by this situation. You should sit him down and have one last talk about it but explain that it’s still something that hurts and you will work on getting over it. Then move forward on things that can build your trust. Let him know that you feel like you are still struggling and need reassurance. Men go through a postpartum and struggle with the adjustment of pregnancy and baby also. It’s a grieving period of just their wife and themselves, of normalcy. My husband and I had to go to therapy about our relationship right after baby also. He became distant and would rather be away than help with the baby. It came from a place of helplessness. These are things that should be talked about. Don’t keep your relationship in the past, help yourself and relationship by moving forward.

@Jasmine we are not in therapy, but I’m considering it at this point.

@𝓨𝓸𝓷𝓷𝓪 you have a good point. I do feel like bringing it up is only impacting our marriage negatively! Thanks for the advice love

I went through something similar! My baby was a few months old when mine went to another city to “work” for two weeks! I found out he worked the first week and second week work was canceled and he was just chilling in the hotel with his workmates until the week was over for them to comeback, found backpage on his phone, and a blocked number of a girl! He still claim to this day he didn’t do nothing and it was his workmate that was using his phone! The trust been broken since that time and that was like 4 years ago! I never knew the truth wether he cheated or not! I like to believe he didn’t cause at the time I was so young and gullible! But thinking about it now I’m like did he really tell the truth??

@Cecilia what’s backpage

@Cecilia Exactly. The doubt will always linger once trust is broken

@Emily it used to be like an old website where you can hook up w esc*rts/prostitut*s . I’m not sure if the website still exists

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