Help! Hospital Visitors 🙅♀️
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@MJ i did, but my husband told them that it was OK. She stayed for 2 weeks straight....TWO. My issue lies with my husband not respecting my wants and needs, but also his mother being selfish.
It’s simple, don’t let anyone know when you go to the hospital, avoid social media during that time. Where I work we let patients know they can specify whether they want visitors or not, as far as specific people they do not want allowed in, in those cases the names are provided to reception along with a photo. As when your home, if you drive don’t park on your driveway or directly in front of your house, give the illusion you are not home. Also a head of time I would formulate a message stating, only you and partner will be at the hospital and once home Intend on spending the first 10 days with baby and ensuring your daughter gets attention too. Also include for all visitors to spend a couple minutes with your daughter first before focusing on the baby.
I would have your partner be the one to send the message to his family, and ensure he is fully onboard and doesn’t try ambush you when in the hospital or at home with visitors.
I would explain to your husband that if he goes against your wishes, he will be asked to leave the hospital along with whoever he brought. I would have your midwife add this to the system, that partner is not allowed to bring anyone in. On the day you go in the first chance you get, have them tell the admin staff, your only visitor will be your husband no one else.
My baby was in SCBU and my MIL wanted to visit every week, sometimes two! Even when I came out of hospital she wanted it to be every week. The other week I put my foot down and said no. I wished I said no visitors when I was at home for 10 days now as it gets too much so put your foot down cos some people don't know when to give the mothers space.
Make a rule that unless you have said your happy to be visited on a specific day if anyone turns up unannounced/ uninvited the door won’t be opened
Tell the nurses your husband did that last time and it is not ok with you and your recovery!
Honestly, I didn’t tell anyone the date and didn’t even tell them he’d been born for a few days. Then I lied to people and said I was still in hospital for over a week so they didn’t insist on coming. I felt bad making my husband lie to his family but they’re so over bearing and I didn’t want to deal with it 😂
Don’t tell anyone when you go to the hospital and at hospital you can check in as private, let nurses know that you will not be accepting any visitors even if husband says it’s okay. Patient’s wishes are what they listen to.
Tell the medical staff In front of your husband that you want NO one in your room and if your partner breaks that boundaries he will need to be escorted out as well. Let them know your previous experience and how it may hinder your birth or healing and they’ll hand the rest.
Tell the nursing staff, they will not let people in if you don’t want them.