Am I too sensitive?

No no no. Sensitivity is a gift. Please re evaluate your situation, I promise you this man knows of your sensitivity and is using it against you instead of making you feel like your empathy is a good thing. I too, have been classed as sensitive and I care deeply for others, which means I care about you so please consider finding someone who treats you with the love and the sensitivity towards you, you deeply deserve, yourself.

He spoke to you like that over some eggs? Is this a common occurrence? That’s abusive and he probably does it because he knows you’ll say nothing back to him. You deserve better girl

Your partner talks to you like that?! Nope, you aren’t being overly sensitive. He’s a dickhead and taking you for a ride because he thinks you can put up with his behaviour. Thats not what a man who loves you would say to you xxx

Agree that a man who speaks to you like that over something so trivial either doesn’t love you or is deeply unhappy with himself. I mean, what’s wrong with scrambled eggs in microwave, especially if you’re on a time crunch?! He sounds like the polar opposite of you in this respect. What was it you liked about him when you first got together? Presumably you liked his blunt nature? I think first step is to talk to him about how his words are not acceptable, particularly for a couple who’s just brought a baby into the world. Create a calm space for an honest conversation and see if there’s anything wrong that you can sort together? Xxx

Not sensitive at all! I accidentally hit too sensitive while scrolling down. He was being an a$hole and you don’t deserve that.

@Heena he is a very particular person so almost everything he finds an issue with, his issue with the scrambled egg was the smell and that I shouldn’t be making it in microwave. He is the exact opposite of me completely but we were so similar when we first got together he was sweet, kind etc. His bluntness and rudeness has just gotten worse over the years and as he gets older. I tell him all the time how it makes me feel but nothing ever changes. He says I’m too sensitive or makes other excuses. When I started crying today he said ‘now you want to act sad’ because he thinks I don’t have a right to be upset if I’ve done something that is ‘wrong’ etc

You are not too sensitive and have done nothing wrong at all. He is gaslighting you by calling you too sensitive. Anyone would be really hurt by those words and actions and this is so unhealthy 😞 do I recall seeing a post a while back about someone being called names for doing scrambled eggs in the microwave? Was that you

Me and my husband are polar opposites so I understand where you’re coming from. But the balance is definitely off now and at the most vulnerable time of your life. It’s not acceptable. I think first things first, you need to create a boundary with him so he understands clearly that you’re not OK with the interaction. If you feel the urge to cry, calmly finish/stop what you’re doing and walk away. Into another room, or go for a walk if possible. Do not engage with him, especially if he speaks badly to you. If the opportunity arises to say something, say that interactions with him recently leave you feeling low so you’d rather not be around him when he’s being so negative. Maybe that could prompt him to reflect a little and encourage more positive behaviour or a positive conversation? Xx

You’re not sensitive for being upset over verbal abuse like that. Anyone would be. He shouldn’t speak to you like that.

@Tanya yes that was me. I continued to make them in the mornings (sometimes) regardless as he’s not usually home at that time. Today he wasn’t in the kitchen when I made them, so he wasn’t aware and didn’t care until he realised and asked me. I guess I made the choice to do it again knowing he didn’t like it the first time, but hearing the words ‘you make me sick’ after he was happy hugging me 10 minutes prior just makes me feel sad

You sound like a very caring person, it's not everyone's personality to argue back and to me it sounds like your partner is a dick and gets away with talking to you badly and the excuse is "you're too sensitive" but you're not too sensitive your human and even if you got angry and argued back or cry the reality is he'd probably still do it because like I said before his a dick

I’m also super sensitive and while i find it inconvenient personally it’s not a problem. there is a problem in this situation though and its that your husband is a raging asshole! It’s not ever ok for someone to speak to you like that. Anyone! Ever! Even if you didn’t make them breakfast! And especially if they are someone who supposedly ‘loves you’ I’m so sorry you didn’t know that before now so you could have left at the first sign of this behaviour and not gotten this far involved with someone so hateful

Woa woa woa, cooking eggs in the microwave does not mean you've done something wrong. That's such a gaslighting manipulative thing to say. Do not let him be little you like that. If he is saying things like that, he thinks very poorly of you and knows he can manipulate your emotions. He's using that against you so that you will want his forgiveness. That's a narcissistic trait, and it sounds too much like how my friends ex-husband treated her. The only reason they divorced was because he cheated on her multiple times. Otherwise, I believe she would still be with him. He once put her down in front of me by making her feel she was wrong for calling ground beef hamburger meat. When in reality is it really something to have fought over? No, he just wanted to be right and in control. Don't think you have to be someone who sticks up for yourself right in the moment. I too feel more in the moment and don't know how to respond right away. Take a step back, reflect how it made you feel and express that later to him.

I'm sorry but he is nasty. If you don't already have kids together I would strongly suggest you don't procreate with an abuser. If you do, I'm so sorry

Being emotionally in tune and sensitive is a good thing and the way you're boyfriend has spoken to you is horrible.

Who the hell is saying you’re too sensitive?! That’s disgusting that a man talks to you that way especially over something so small, he should be gone!

Thank u all. He ignored me all day until 5pm he then tried to be normal with me and told me not to ever make egg in the microwave again and that I used the wrong lid to cover it (I used a microwave cover over the pot). Anywho, the egg is not the major factor here, this is just an example of something that if he thinks is done the wrong way then he will get mad, and also the example of how easily he speaks to me rudely. Then a little while later, after my kids finished homework on their computer (I had it on charge the entire time it was being used) but as I went to shut it down it required an update, so I had already packed away the charger but started the update (took around 10 minutes). He then accused me of not connecting the charger the entire time it was being used, and was mad that I took the charger off while it was updating. He swore at me and angrily told me to connect the charger back, practically calling me stupid and shouting.

You are not too sensitive, i would cry too. That was just plain aweful and down right mean/degrading. What he said over microwaved eggs is not right and verbally abusive. You deserve better than that. And the other scenarios you described is all abuse. He IS very much verbally abusive.

I'm so sorry. I'm glad you can see that the way he acts towards you is wrong and that it's not that you're sensitive. How long has it been going on for?

I was like u . I Cried so many times for years due to being mistreated. One day it clicked , he’s never going to change so I need to move on emotionally. I’m still with him but I’m not emotionally attached to him like before so his behavior doesn’t affect me anymore bc I have made peace with the fact that I will eventually leave him. The only reason ur not defending urself is bc ur afraid of him or something. Are u stuck financially , or fear he will hurt , or fear to lose him, ? Whatever ur fears are u need to get rid of them and u will be free. U might think ur angry at him but Deep down Ur angry at urself for not standing up for urself , not leaving, and letting him have control over ur emotions. If u control ur emotions then he won’t be able to hurt u. The only way to have control over ur feelings is by self love 💕 and not letting anyone get to u. Have boundaries. Try the grey rock method if he continues to hurt u

You are not too sensitive. It’s perfectly valid to feel hurt by this kind of treatment. Your partner is not “rude” or “blunt”. He’s mean, disrespectful and abusive. You deserve so much better than this.

Damn he should be happy that his woman is taking care of herself by "eating" . It's important to function for the day and for our health. If he has a problem with you using microwave to cook eggs, and knowing your on a time schedule then he should have cooked your eggs for breakfast in the frying pan himself out of love. That's the point, either he cooks eggs for you or shut the f up about the microwave. The moment you stand up to him is the second you are teaching him that he cannot speak to you the way he does. He's obviously too comfortable speaking to you the way he does because you don't speak up, and you let him get away with speaking to you the way he does. Don't be silent anymore. Find your voice. The way he speaks is his true colors coming out.

My sensitive ass would be out that door and say screw you I would wipe the microwave egg all over sides in sink and leave it there and go for mackies I’m sensitive person sooo ……. you find yourself life too short , your should turn around and said next time I’ll ask you make it, don’t know why he thinks he can talk to you this way ???

@Marie it’s normal that he talks to me like this now, any little small issue he has or thinks I’ve ’done wrong’ he will call me names, swear at me etc. He still continuing to blame me even now because at the end of the day he believes I have done something wrong so it will always be my fault.

@Lucy if I stand up for myself/say anything in my defence is just escalates. Because he believes in his mind that he is right no matter what, and that I’ve done something wrong, so if I say something back or defend myself it makes him more mad

Is it possible he has mental health issues or is on the spectrum or just overly controlling in a lot of circumstances. After the situation will he apologise can he discuss what his struggling with about using the 'wrong things' Does it really matter what lid you cook your eggs with, no. He shouldn't be talking to you like that or should he be doing it around your children so they're either scared or think it's normal either way they will be absorbing it and processing it. Please be kind to yourself and please reach out to services and friends or family who can safely help you xxx

Can I ask why you with him ?? I know it’s personal but if I was you I would go away for few days, so he can stew in it, to me I feel like he holding something over you so that’s why he getting to talk to you like shit or he’s got a lot resentment against you