Stay together for the kids

Marriage is hard. What makes it work is discipline and an intention. If the both of you put in work to connect yall will

I would never stay with someone for the kids because that never ends great for the kids. But could you maybe try talking and seeing if you could both put effort into making eachother feel seen again? Maybe set aside an evening for a date night, even if that involves staying home and watching a movie together and having a nice dinner. Or maybe even counselling? X

Coming from a home where my mom “stayed for the kids” was honestly miserable so personally, I’d try and sit him down and have a serious conversation on where you two want things to go, what he could work on to help you and vice versa. I had a conversation like that with my husband. Multiple actually and eventually it did get through to him and he did show me more support and I started getting less irritated with him and realized I still loved him and wanted to be in this marriage. However, if it’s truly just not working, I wouldn’t recommend staying. My mother was so absent because she was just tolerating my step dad and when they did get in fights after both of them lost patience, they were explosive ones and only after my mom left him and took on us 4 kids alone did I really start getting to know her and actually spend time with her and enjoy it and I just wish she would’ve done it sooner. The amount of stress turned into happiness, changed our lives.

Men usually don’t “stay for the kids” so why would you? Work on it if you can by talking to him or through counseling… I myself prefer unbiased guidance and proof that I really tried to make things work and marriage does indeed take work. I hope you can find a solution and I wish you the best.

@Kamaira thank you 💙

@Megan we tried many years ago.. i guess it doesnt hurt to try again but he is barely home idk when we will have the time but if it’s important we should make the time too though.. Thank you 💙

@Sara Yeah i do want my kids to see love and happiness not just tolerating .. so they can have that one day for themselves if they just see disconnect while growing up idk how that Can affect them so good point thank you 💙💙

If you dont believe in divorce, can try couple therapy's or some couseling. Start to talk together can be a good beginning

You should be working on your marriage now not later regardless of children health (parent here with kids who regularly see specialist!) Staying together just for the kid shows them it's ok to be in an unhealthy relationship and doesnt show them what a good relationship it. It could also affect their regular relationships as well. If you and your husband aren't gonna work on your marriage, no point in staying together

I'd talk to my husband and ask him to help make the marriage work. I hope it works out for you x