I messed up and yelled at my child
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girl, I think we have all done it once or twice whether any of us want to admit it or not. I understand where you’re coming from though, it can be difficult. i’m going through that stage too and been in that situation, I had a meltdown with my son bc I felt so guilty yelling at him. you’re not alone. don’t feel bad, he will be okay. it seems like he understood and loves you endlessly 💕
I get that feeling and what I tell myself is, 'If I apologize for what I did wrong, I'm using this as a teaching moment to show my son that we all make mistakes—but that we can always take accountability". The guilt doesn't go away in that moment but I try and do it differently and try and understand that I was also frustrated by something so I burst. It happens, even to the best of us. You had a plan to go to an indoor playground but it got derailed, you were also having a big morning trying to turn a bad moment good. Give yourself grace in this moment and know you're human.
Sit him down and apologize and talk about your feelings. "Momma was feeling overwhelmed and she shouldn't have shouted. Momma's inside feelings just felt too big and that wasn't a proper reaction". talk to him about it. And see how he felt from that reaction and apologize. Mom guilt is horrible but you have the option to change it with what you do after 🤍🤍 you're doing great Momma!! Your feelings are valid.
He's not going to break because you told him off. We are raising soft kids these days
He will be okay. We all yell sometimes. You apologized and told him you were sorry. I personally wouldn't have pulled over to pick up a toy he dropped. The natural consequence of it dropping is waiting until we are home to get it. It teaches them patience. I think that might be a learned behavior of if I scream because something was dropped mommy will pull over and fix it for me right away. It doesn't teach them to be patient or how the real world works.
@Miranda yes this, I definitely agree!
@Miranda i don't normally pull over and he doesn't normally fuss over a dropped toy because he knows mommy is driving and we have to wait until we're home. In this situation, he had just gotten a new toy and was excited. He was so excited for the indoor playground and unfortunately, we couldn't go. So what I'm thinking happened for him, was he was feeling let down a few times this morning as he's only 20 months and is still learning how the real world works xo
He will be absolutely fine. I'm on my own most the time. My son is going through terrible twos and it is so hard it really is. I have shouted at him a couple times, lost it, had to remove myself, calm down, remind my self it's hard for him too and apologise to him. I don't think the guilt goes away but he will be fine. You are doing so well, give yourself more credit, parenting is hard. You're smashing it
Just remember that in the wild, cubs are being eaten for misbehaving, so you yelling at yours it's perfectly fine 😅🤣 Don't worry about momma. We've all done it and will still do
He’ll be okay momma ❤️ you are human too . And no one is perfect .