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I think you are super right and should set a boundary right now, just tell them that for the first few weeks you want some time alone and family time to adjust. What is with people demanding things in moments like that or making decision without checking first! It’s ridiculous
Aw I think you’re well within your rights to set your expectations from the onset and not stress about it! Let your MIL know she probably won’t have Saturdays with your husband and child as often as she does at the moment, and ask your brother in law to come later. I think it’s really lovely they want to be so involved and they probably just don’t know how you’re feeling at the moment.
You’re defo within your rights to dictate visitation. In fact, I would say your partner should be handling these conversations with them so that you don’t have to worry. Especially since it’s his family making demands. I’ve asked my partner to deal with visitations and basically keep people at bay until I say I’m ready. I hope that it works out and you get the rest you’ll need
personally I think you’re well within your right to set these boundaries. Especially as it’s not like you’ve got your family over 24/7 and it’s just them you’re excluding. I agree, the bubble after the baby comes home is so special and should be shared with you as a new little family, working out your new dynamic etc. As he’s got the time off maybe just start hinting that you don’t know how you’ll feel after baby and it’s going to be a lot to adjust etc so you’ll play it by ear with all visitors etc? If you want to be more tactful haha. Personally I sent a list of very polite rules to anyone expecting to meet baby so they knew not to bother turning up or bugging us haha. X