mamas, am i wrong?

so today i left my bd & took our son with me. i didn’t tell him i was leaving. i packed my stuff while he was napping with our son. when i told him i was leaving, he told me i couldn’t take our son. we were staying with him & his family for about a month & it started fine but things got rocky. i had our son on the 21st & the postpartum emotions took ahold of both of us. to give a little insight on our relationship, he has talked to other females in the past while i was pregnant & before, caught an STD that was NOT from me, lied to me multiple times & hit me a few times. today, i caught him liking females posts & i decided i was at my breaking point. my parents came to get me from his house (im 19 & he’s 28 btw). he called the police on my dad because they got into a verbal altercation. no one was locked up luckily. after the smoke cleared, my bd called me to talk about the situation & i told him how i felt resentful towards him now. i miss him a lot. do you guys think i was wrong for leaving?

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No I don't think you were wrong for leaving, you listened to your gut feeling and took the right initiative. Proud of you!

No, not at all that man didn’t care about your well-being while you were pregnant at that. I went through a similar situation with my baby’s father and if I had developed my frontal lobe enough to had left before I did I would have and that man is almost an entire decade older than you he knows what he’s doing. You can miss him all you want it’s apart of life but don’t go back

@Daisy thank you🥹

@Nya right & everytime i tell him how i feel, he invalidates my feelings & flip it back on me by saying things like “well how do you think i feel?” or “im living in the past”

Honestly, forget the rest of it. He has hit you. You are not wrong for leaving.

Yeah definitely trying to gaslight you but also people forget the past is always going to affect the present. it’s always gonna be a cause of affect. You do what you know and feel in your heart and mind is best for you and that baby especially while postpartum mama. You got this and it gets better I promise that hardest part is over, you left

The first few weeks are the hardest where all you wanna do is go back because your whole world has just flipped and you’ll lose your routine, your home & everything you know. Keep pushing through all of this. The best things in life are not easy. 🫶🏽🤍

thank you all, this just made me cry 🥹❤️

he’s not worth your time. Do not go back

@LOVEE he hit her “a few times”. He didn’t think of what was best for his baby when he beat his baby’s mother.

Incog so pleased you got out and thank god you could rely on your parents! Now make sure you tell your parents all about him, including when he hit you. They need to know what kind of violent animal he is and protect you and their grandchild from him. I would urge you to take out a restraining order against him too. You need to keep your emotions out of this and I suggest looking into a co-parenting app. You and he are no longer together so he doesn’t get to have access to your life. Block him on everything but the parenting app. Use that app solely to communicate about your child. Also put him on child maintenance payments. Next step for you is therapy. You are too young to see it now, but he is a predator. At his big age dating a teenager is massive red flag and men like that do it for power and control. You need to explore in a safe environment what led you to this and also how to never fall for men like him again. Please, PLEASE never go back to him 🙏🏽

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