No help

Yes. I get 0 help. Even on his off days, he won’t even watch his own son for an hour. He barely does anything with us and doesn’t help out. I definitely thought this would be way different. He was excited to have a son and then don’t know what happened when we finally did

@Emma I hate that we have to go through this it can be difficult sometimes but I just keep pushing

Yes 1000%. I had a completely different vision for what my husband would be like as a father. There are so many things... I thought he was going to be a family guy... he would make me feel bad for going to the NICU to see them when they were first born and he didn't want to go... "I'm not like you. I don't like being around sick babies all day"... I had to stop taking my pain meds from c section early so I could drive myself... he told me he "hated feeding them" when they were newborns. He would change the diapers and warm the bottles but it was "up to me" to feed them. These days he gets short tempered with them quickly and then blames me. There are zero family dinners, he will go into a different room and watch something on his phone while he eats. I never get to leave the house because he doesn't like watching them alone. Even if I shower on the weekends he complains I take too long... if I leave the house during nap and not back before they are awake. I was out too long... i could go on and on...

Yes! Literally breaks my heart because I had no idea things would be this way, I get 0 help and it’s exhausting x

@Melissa I am so sorry you are going through this just know that you are a strong mom and even if you do take a long shower or go out for a few minutes it’s ok sometimes we need just a small break no matter how they feel about it

@Amy yes it is exhausting sometimes I wait until my daughter is sleeping and give myself a power talk and encourage myself

@Melissa omg I feel like our situation is so similar! Can I message you? It’d be great to have someone to talk through about these frustrations

@Emma Of course girl anytime! We have to survive this somehow!

Totally agree. It frustrates me how they can just check in and out when ever they feel like it, yet I can't do that unless they are asleep. I always feel like I have to ask for any help off my husband where the children are concerned. I always thought we would be in it together, but get the feeling when they are older he will take half the praise for me doing 99% of the hard work. Unfortunately this is how he was raised, as he saw his father going to work, bringing in the money and his mother doing everything else. He thinks he is the provider and I am the home maker. I do hate this old fashioned thinking, but it's very difficult to shift if it is already grained into your world from childhood.

@Danielle yes somewhat the same his dad worked alot as well and i can see the same pattern in my husband