am i in the wrong here?

soon to be ex, working on getting out before anyone says anything, is genuinely one of the worst men i have ever met. cusses me like a dog, screams in my face, threatens to put me out, calls me the most horrible things i’ve ever been called etc. for the past year i have had absolutely no sex drive at all, mostly because of how god awful he is to me, partly also because im depressed because of how he treats me and how trapped i feel. he expects me to want to be sexual with him every day, but only on his terms. he will come in from work while im juggling my 2 and 7 year old and all they need while also making dinner and expect me to drop everything im doing to go have sex. he barely does foreplay, it’s so boring and i’m so uninterested and also so emotionally distant because of all the things he’s said to me. if i say later, if i say no, if i say i don’t feel good, im not in the mood etc he gets furious with me. this “man” calls me a wh0re, c^nt, b!tch, tells me our daughter is his biggest mistake because im the mom, every horrible thing you can think of - he’s said it to me. spat in my face & threw my clothes outside in the yard as well. hard to feel any desire to be intimate with someone like that when i literally hate myself and feel like life isn’t worth living because of him. im genuinely terrified of him because of how bad his anger issues are so i usually just bite my tongue and give him what he wants, but for the last year i just can’t, it feels like im being assaulted by someone every time he touches me as fked up as it is to say. he refuses to look within even though i’ve told him i have no sexual interest in him because of how he treats me but he refuses to acknowledge that and just tells me im cheating on him. he says that if he’s not getting it, someone else is getting it from me. someone please tell me im not in the wrong for not wanting him to touch me, i just cringe every single time he tries.