Opinions on Valentine’s Day

I don’t find it strange, pervy, or odd, it’s just not something that I do and it wasn’t the way I was raised to see Valentine’s Day. To me it’s always been a couples thing, and buying for kids too is just another win for consumerism.

@Lisa that’s fair enough! It shouldn’t be a day to make people feel like they should do anything really as love is suppose to be celebrated everyday not just one day cause someone says so🤣. I understand not everyone will do the same as others ofc. But instead of leaving at that the pervy word is now getting thrown around by people🙄.

I don’t find it pervy or anything but it just seems another unnecessary consumer event. It was never a thing like 10/20 years ago for parents to buy their kids valentines things. Just like Easter baskets, Halloween baskets and Christmas Eve boxes. It’s all too much and too much pressure on parents to do it all otherwise they feel their child is missing out!

@Scarlett I work in a shop and this is exactly what I said yesterday! Where we do draw the line with these things.

Gosh that’s a bit extreme! I just see it at as a day of love, not just romantic love - love. I won’t go mad but will probably get my daughter some little chocolate hearts or a lolly. My granny used to get us chocolates when we were kids. You can’t have too much love in the world! I think it’s sweet.

@Scarlett I feel this! Not so much valentines as that’s my own choice. but I deffo think the whole Xmas eve boxes etc is now a huge thing. My MIL does it for my partners brothers which then makes me feel like I have to then do it for my son, even more expense 🙄. As you feel bad for them missing out.

@Scarlett I’m in my 30s and it was a thing 20 yrs ago! (Before instagram or social media so no one else knew about it). Some people do go overboard and I can understand people feeling under pressure. I don’t do Xmas eve boxes, Halloween, burr boxes etc. Every family has their own traditions so I think parents just have to choose what works for them, though I appreciate no one wants their kid feeling left out.

As a mum w kids quality time w my partner (and date nights) are few and far between- so many couples argue or distance away or fight or tension PP and we talked about how monthly date nights we will prioritise PP, so Vday is just our “February date night” just a lil bit more special than than say, January or March date night, it’s a day for me and him to reconnect. I have no issues w anyone else getting gifts for their kids its not my kids, but I see it as a romantic day between couples. Now if she’s a single mum then the kids is all she’s got so in that case she can prioritise her kids. I don’t see it as pervy or odd though, just unnecessary for the kids, that’s all. Because they’re going to expect it every single year until they’re what, 14? 16? My kids just had Xmas and Chinese new year to celebrate

My dad is from Finland and over there Valentine’s Day is more like love and friendship day. So as a child it was very normal for me to get little presents from adult family friends and my Finnish aupairs. The gifts weren’t super expensive though. I remember one year a family friend sewed two new outfits for my Barbie doll 🥰 I’ll probably continue the tradition when my babies are older.

@Astrid aww this is soo lovely 🥰!

I don't find it pervy but it's just something I or my husband would do.

My 8 year old seems very excited by it. We never have done presents although this year I am getting her a stitch and card and her teen brother chocolate (he’s not bothered). However me and my oh just do cards.

I don't celebrate valentines day full stop, I'm not getting anyone a present😅 nothing strange about people wanting to show love to their babies though!

As a kid i remember my dad coming home with a big bouquet and gift for my mom and he’d always bring me and my sister a single rose so we werent left out. It was always a different color (white, yellow, pink, multicolor). My mom would do something cheesy like make us a special breakfast with colored pancakes or hearts on them when we were small. As we got older she’d grab us candy as a gift. In elementary school all kids created a valentines for all the other kids in class. It was about love and friendship. I can’t imagine it being pervy unless its a pervy person. My MIL always sends every granchild a card for V-day to say she loves them. I think things like this are beautiful

I only find it strange because it isn't something I would do, and not something I'm used to from my parents. But if other people choose that's fine, for me it's about me and my husband

@Lisa I know what you mean. I never had this as a child either at all. I had a crappy childhood which is why I think I’m one that does do these little things for my child as I want him to be full of love 🥰 (not that anyone who doesn’t do it doesn’t make their child feel loved ofc) everyone is different and I respect that x

I love Valentine’s Day and I have always gotten my kids a few things for the day. But I’ve also heard the argument that you heard and I think those people are weirdos. My grandma always got my sister and I something for every holiday, even the little ones. It wouldn’t ever be anything huge, sometimes it was a pair of themed socks and some candy, but it was something. That’s how I am now. This year I got each kid a box of candy, a small plushie and my oldest a small cologne he’s wanted, my middle a body spray and my youngest a poster for his room. Nothing too crazy but it’s something.

I don’t think it’s weird or pervy it’s just not something I did as a kid and won’t for my boy either. But tbf I am not the biggest fan of valentines anyway- monkey making commercialism haha. That said I do remember making my mum a card once when I was little! My partner and I only do cards and something small so I think it really is about your preference and don’t worry what anyone thinks. Love is love and if you want to get your baby something go for it!

I have nothing against families doing that. My husband and I do an antipasto plate kind of thing. We don’t make it a huge thing.

I get my son little gift baskets for V day including chocolate , gummies , coloring book, chapstick . I don’t find it odd to get him little gifts to show I love him. I don’t buy for my husband tho I’d rather bake a dessert for that holiday for us bc our anniversary is a few days after V day

@Scarlett I always used to get something as a child, so like 10-20 years ago. Not much, just a flower or chocolate bar or occasionally a small teddy. I loved it and have fond memories of it.

When I was little my Dad used to buy my Mum a huuuuge bouquet of flowers, then he’d pick one flower out of the bunch and give it to me. I never got a card or anything (not saying anything wrong with that!) I think in todays world just let people enjoy what they enjoy ☺️ it is a lovely memory for me of my Dad and I remember being so excited with this one flower 😂

My dad gets my sisters and I something small even now and we’re in our thirties! 😂 This year it was a tub of rocky roads 🥹😂 I have no clue where anyone reached weird or pervy from this but think that’s a shame, it’s just a nice token, it was especially nice when I was a heartbroken teen and my dad would bring me some biscuits or whatever it was 😂

Never heard of people thinking it’s creepy in anyway, My mom used to just really put up decorations or balloons for every holiday that rolled by, and on Valentine’s Day we’d get a card, cause we got her a card. I plan to hang up some decorations after my son goes to sleep the night before & I got some chocolate for him (:

Its just for fun. Kids in school are sent with stuff for their classmates so its not a romance only event. I buy my toddler holiday related activities including valentines day and we are thinking of having the kids give eachother something small (with my money) now that we have 2 kids.

Only my children get gifts!! My husband and I don’t do anything for each other. As a kid, my daddy gave me chocolates every year! He always knew what kind I liked at the time. Only occasionally was it the assorted chocolates. Just shows your care and love your children.

We don’t do gifts, but I think it’s a fun day to celebrate those you love, even friendships! That’s why kids do little valentines parties at school and ladies often celebrate galentines with their girlfriends. We never did gifts growing up, but still did fun little things. Like my daughter is making valentines for her cousins and grandparents for a fun craft. I plan to make a yummy dinner for my family, I have heart shaped placemats, maybe make a red velvet heart cake, buy my daughter a heart balloon because she loves balloons 😂 just a few fun little things to make memories as a family. But no reason to go overboard with gifts in our home. I love a good date with my husband when we can get childcare, but I’d never go out on Valentine’s Day anyway! It feels cliche and over crowded. We will find another time soon 😊