Does anyone struggle with hating their husband right now?
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Oh yes. I feel this.
I feel this!!!! And it's not even wanting a break from the kids but a break from the responsibility. Or time to care for my own self. My husband works long hours too and the other night he stayed up until 230 am playing video games when he had to be up at 530... and then came home from work early on sick time and napped the rest of the day away. Which I mean... use your sick time however you want but he was feeling run down due to his own choices... and I COULD NEVER get a he would most definitly be calling me out. He barely even covers for me to shower let alone excuse myself for that length of time!
Yeah I feel this at 8 months pregnant right now with my husband lol the hormones and exhaustion and just feeling like it’s so unequal 🥲 my husband works really hard too but at least when they clock out they get to actually relax. Anytime I hear his gaming console que up I just get annoyed I can’t help it like dang dawg can’t you be doing something productive rn 💀 take the kids outside or something so they aren’t jumping on me with all this pent up energy that I cannot physically keep up with at this stage
Feel free to message me if you’d like a rant! I’m in the same boat, I feel so alone and I instantly get pissed off when I’m up doing the night feeds only to see he’s on his game and could have stepped in and helped so I could get some sleep! He also works 12 hour shifts so I understand he needs a break too but ffs it shouldn’t stop you from being a dad?! He even made some notes to compare how much sleep we both get the other night cause apparently ‘naps’ and a ‘broken sleep’ works out more and better then a full nights kip! 🙂🔫 xx
All the time. It comes in waves
The first few months after *especially the first* baby is hard. My husband and I actually separated for almost a month and almost divorced. It was so so hard. Every relationship is different, and every post partum is different. I think after our second I made this mindset shift that changed a lot for me. I really thought about what I wanted - staying home, working, going back to school, etc. and deep down I had no desire to work outside the home. I wanted to be home with our babies. I didn’t want to put them in daycare. Now, I look at everything with an “I get to” mindset. And it’s changed a lot for me, my marriage, our kids. Changing the mindset from “I have to do all the dang laundry today” to “I get to be home and provide my family with clean clothes!” From “I have to sit and nurse the baby all day” to “I have this little blessing that I’m literally giving life too and get to feed from my body” I knowwww a lot of it is pp hormones and yes those are super real!
But part of it is perspective. How you’re viewing your situation and circumstances. ❤️
@Katelyn thank you!! This was so helpful
Of course❤️you’re welcome! It goes for so many things - I GET too!
Can you perhaps pump and have him feed when he’s home so that you get a break?
communicate and tell him what you want
Hey Mumma , postmortem harmones are brutal , I felt lots of rage and anger too . But they are for reasons . We didn’t switch on TV for first 6 months . My husband had long hours too but he cooked breakfast and lunch before going to office and started helping right after he reached home . House was mess , but he was helping to take care of baby in night . He wasn’t good help because he never did any household before that but he was present in same room . Can you ask your husband to help you . Communication and putting your expectations clearly can only help otherwise relationship can go on toss . Take care .