Am I being ungrateful

I’m pregnant with my first baby at the moment and have been really enjoying getting things ready for the nursery etc. I have a family member who keeps buying loads of stuff to go in the nursery and it’s starting to get on my nerves a bit now. It is all stuff that isn’t essential and not stuff we have chosen (decorations, big plushies etc.) Every time I see them there is something else and I genuinely have no idea what to do with half of it because there is so much stuff. I suppose I’m just annoyed because I want to choose and buy my baby things for their bedroom and I do have a baby wishlist with lots of stuff we need if people did want to get us stuff - mostly essentials like nappies, wipes, bath time stuff, nappy bag, thermometer etc. I know that’s not exciting but I’d genuinely really much rather we were given essentials than huge plushies that I don’t really have the space for 😬 we don’t expect anything at all from anyone to be honest. Am I being unreasonable and ungrateful and what would you do in this situation? 🫠

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I wouldn’t say your being ungrateful, maybe just pull them aside and thank them and let them know that you haven’t really got anymore space for big things and that you’d like to get a few bits yourself. Maybe some of the bits can be used at a family members home, we had so much with our first that some was taken and used at my mums x

So difficult. I’d be the same. All you can do is be honest, but no doubt they’ll be a bit upset. X

Perhaps just have a kind chat about being excited about decorating the nursery yourself, and running out of space for their gifts? Maybe if they really feel like buying more things they could ask your opinion before doing so, or ask if there was something specific that you wanted to use to decorate with? Maybe you could give them pictures or links of what you’re looking for? Otherwise tell them that you’ve run out of space and still need to buy the essential stuff

I don’t think you’re being ungrateful at all. I appreciate it’s an exciting time for everyone in the family so people do get carried away but I do think you should say something as baby’s come with so much stuff anyway let alone stuff you don’t need or want! My hubby and I have been super strict with family and buying us stuff, we’re currently renovating a house and do not have room for anything that’s not an essential as we’re currently in a static caravan on site and have no space for anything that’s unnecessary! The wish list is a good way to move forward and encourage people to purchase from if they want to get you anything!

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