Seeking assistance

Hey all please don’t judge but I am a sahm, depending on my partners income and I guess I’m just seeking advice. I solely depend on my partners income and as of lately he’s been really stingy with money. I’ve never been the type of person to ask for money to buy myself clothes shoes or let alone my own necessities 😞 nor has he offered to buy me any of those things even though I’m in need of clothes. We’re not struggling. But we’re also not rich lol. Or I mean he isn’t because I feel like his money is his money not ours. Anyways recently when I ask him for money for food or basic necessities, I always get a run around or thrown a little bit of money. In his mine $65 should be enough to feed our family of 7 which I know I can buy a lot of cheap items and stretch them….today I asked for $100 and I needed $80 more for diapers for my 2 littles. He said he didn’t have it. And I’m so upset I’m to the point where I’m applying for jobs and I’ll have to find a sitter for my 3 1/2 month old and my 3 other small kids. But in the mean time while waiting for a job I almost dam near want to apply for ebt because fuk it sucks watching someone makes x amount of money and not given any for food 😞. I guess my question is can I apply for ebt and tell my worker that my partner doesn’t want to provide me money? Today he even I want to say he was being vindictive because I didn’t go get my daughters social security number so he can do his taxes and because I didn’t do that he isn’t giving me more money

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You should absolutely apply for assistance. If you’re not married they typically will approve you. I would look into getting other assistance to like housing or subsidies for daycare because while I don’t know your partner you don’t deserve that. Ive done so many different jobs and the hardest one I’ve ever had is being a sahm. At the end of the day you have beautiful children to worry about. You got this stay strong and Godspeed.

@Jenna were definitely not married but…. He does pay everything like rent and what not. Last time I tried applying I didn’t want to add him to my case because he makes enough and idk if my reason is valid??? Like if she asks me why don’t you want to add your partner or why don’t you have enough money, I say because he refuses to provide me money? Feels so dumb saying that 😭 I’m sorry I’m just so frustrated because I don’t have the money to get my kids their things

I feel like she’s going to tell me no lady go tell your partner to give you money

I understand and I’m in the same situation. I plan on filing my son myself instead of him this year because I know he isn’t going to give me money for what I need. I only I worked two days last year but I got a w2 so I’m definitely going to be using that.

@Day but how would I exclude him? If he’s the one that pays rent and basically my whole living or he’s supposed to right? Like how do I tell my worker? Can I just tell her I don’t want to include him?

You tell them you eat separate he just provides a home and you support yourself and children

Going through the same thing. I get EBT and medical for me and my 3 kids. And applied for housing for just me and my 3 kids without my baby father. He’s so stingy with money he can buy weed but can’t give me money for XY & Z while I slave in the house and take care of our 2 kids. ABSOLUTELY NOT! I want better. Girl definitely apply get those benefits and I wouldn’t tell him a damn thing.

This is a form of abuse

@Indi crying 😢 your probably right

There is no probably about it its straight up abuse.

I'm so sorry. I hope you can get the benefits you need. How can he not want diapers? The kids are going to be soiling in the house??

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