I love my partner but WTF?

I love my partner but today has been a tough one. We have two under two. Currently everyone in the house is sick. I’ve spent the whole day nursing the youngest as well as playing and taking care of both of them. He did bedtime with the oldest but I did everything before (bath, brush teeth, book, medicine, suck nose) which I don’t mind. Both kids fought us. As soon as we are both free we meet in the kitchen and he immediately grabs my boobs. I was like I’ve been touched all day please don’t. (I’ve mentioned my boobs not being the go to place right now after being a human cow all day) so he grabs my butt. I’m too overstimulated for this so I tell him he can shower first while I watch an episode of a show and eat dinner and clean up for the night that way I can shower once I’m done so I can go to bed because he ate dinner while I did bath time. My show wraps up after 45 minutes I go to our room to gather my clothes. I’m hanging out and 30 minutes go by and the shower turns on??? It’s been almost an hour and a half at this point before a shower. Then another 40 minutes go by and the shower finally turns off. He comes out and says “oh you wanted to shower?” 🙃 yes now move. I go take a shower (usually 10 minutes) was cut short because no more hot water. I come out already exhausted and tired. I try to pump before bed my pumps being stupid. I start crying because it’s now 10 pm and I’m exhausted. He doesn’t understand why I’m upset about this and the long bathroom time and not being able to sleep early as I’m explaining all the things that added up to this breakdown. Then he gets into bed rolls over and says “sorry for ruining your night” and goes to sleep.