Husband don’t hold baby and I started screaming
My baby is 15 months old. My husband hardly holds him, I always ask my husband to make him busy when I am having dinner or getting ready for bed, he cooperates some days but not every day, he comes home by 8pm or 8:15pm.
Yesterday I was eating and he was not holding baby, I asked 3 times, he was watching tv and baby was jumping on me, he says he was busy in screen.
Though worst nightmare happened, I screamed and became an evil till 2am. I feel so bad about it, I became so exhausted that I always want him to help me with baby but he says he can’t help more, we both argued yesterday night and I was shouting badly, I am so ashamed that what is it my baby has learned from my behaviour.
My baby was either in my lap or his, he was listening and seeing everything yesterday night. He woke up late with us. I don’t know how to overcome this desire for me wanting him to cooperate daily.
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You are exhausted and overstimulated and reached the end of your rope. You went into your survival state with that kind of reaction. It was a cry for help. He absolutely needs to step up and help. Something has to change. He MUST change or there is no reason for the relationship to continue
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Honey. Next time get up hand him the baby and walk away. Make him engage! Don’t tolerate anything or he will CONTINUE to do the same things. Or better yet put on some clothes, hand him the baby and go out and treat yourself to a nice dinner alone with no baby so you can get YOU time. You can only be the best mother you can be if you fill your own cup up FIRST! Put you FIRST in order to be the best parent. Don’t tolerate dad not helping idc if he pays all of the bills or anything like that because when he comes home he still has responsibilities to take care of his family that he actively made. Put your foot down and demand respect and help for the child you both created. Maybe seek a couples counselor if the issues persist so he can hear it from someone else. You got this! Put yourself first mama!