Feeling Frustrated

I can absolutely resonate with this. I also had the same with baby groups, I’m a mum in my 40’s and was also ‘different’ as my son was donor conceived so people couldn’t relate to me at all. Just to say you’re not alone and I empathise with how you’re feeling xx

I’ve been there and am still there. We are not alone.

🤍🫶 being a new mum at this age is so hard!! I feel you!

It's so hard. First it's the making friends then it's actually connecting with the ones you made. Don't give up. Try and start a basic convo and see if anyone would like to go for a coffee after class. There's usually at least 1 person that would. 🤞

Aww I found some groups like this but others very welcoming and where people didn't go with a friend. Keep trying different groups until you find one like that.

Keep going and you will fit in I promise you

I could have written this. I kept going to groups for 2 years without ever making a friend. But I've always struggled to make friends so pretty much given up on myself at this point. Felt guilty all the time though because my daughter is super sociable & desperate to make friends & I've not been able to provide that for her. She'll be starting nursery school in a couple of months & I think she'll make some friends there.

You're not alone lady. I've felt that way all my life, it feels like. It has to be something inside of me because I've tried and tried to figure out how to feel included or like a part of the group and it just never seems to work. Maybe it's as simple as being an introvert, idk. What you're talking about is exactly what I fear about going to mom groups. All the younger moms with their put together kids who are just is a vastly different phase of life. It feels absolutely defeating. I feel you. ❤️

Making new friends as an adult is so hard! I've found that I have to keep forcing myself to go to some group for at least a few times before the people start to become more familiar and feel more like acquaintances instead of total strangers. And then I have to push through the awkward phase of interacting with someone several more times by asking them to coffee or something before they feel anything like friends. It's rough and lonely at first but it does pay off eventually!

The thing I've found is that woman have there established friends already and they aren't interested in making new friends which is rubbish! And us woman in out 40s are dying for friendship or a least something to relate to I found most woman that are in groups are cliquey and don't want to let anyone else in

It's so difficult to make new friends

Be proud of yourself for going and getting out of the house, which is an achievement in and of itself. You’re exposing your baby to new environments, maybe this one wasn’t right for you, but try another one and another one and eventually there might be another person alone like you and you’ll both smile at each other or talk for a few minutes and that’ll make both of your days. It’s not easy but at least you’re trying!