Low sex drive question (pre and post baby)
Hello, I’m curious if anyone has experienced a similar situation and found a solution.
I’m 34 and have had a low sex drive for several years.
My relationship with my husband is wonderful, and I find him very attractive, so that’s not the issue.
Sex just doesn’t appeal to me, although when we do have sex, it’s enjoyable.
I’m now eight months postpartum and hoped that having a baby might restore my hormonal balance, as I’ve read this happens for some people.
It might be relevant, but we have difficulty getting pregnant and underwent fertility testing, which revealed I have a mild underactive thyroid. I’m now on daily medication for it.
I’m in the UK and requested a phone call with my GP today. She seemed puzzled about how to assist me. I mentioned that menopausal women are sometimes treated for low sex drive with testosterone. I said I’m unsure if that’s applicable to me, but perhaps I have a hormonal imbalance causing a lack of desire.
Since my life is otherwise positive, with no clear reasons for my low libido, she said she would look into it but appeared somewhat dismissive during the call. I noted that my husband is very supportive regardless, but for my long-term mental health and our relationship, I would like to regain my sex drive.
Has anyone had the same experience and discovered the cause?
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Thank you for sharing. I’m glad it’s in a better place for you now ❤️❤️
I've had a low sex drive since having my little boy nearly 3 years ago, but I think it is mainly because of tiredness x
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I've had a low sex drive for many years, probably the main reason why we never had a baby, but we didn't find out if there were any other reasons. Due to covid, our fertility appointments that we did have got cancelled. I surprisingly got pregnant in July 2021 (the only time we had sex that month). My sex drive increased in the 2nd trimester, but it disappeared again in the 3rd. 2.5 years PP it increased a lot, but I didn't change anything, and a few months later, it's still the same. Sometimes it takes time for our hormones to balance out again after having a baby, so hopefully your sex drive will increase with or without medication. I do know there is something available for women like viagra, you would need to do a bit of research if that's something you want to look into. It is really tough when you have low sex drive, we had a very rocky marriage for many years because of it. I do believe mine was because of past sexual trauma, as well as anxiety and depression. I hope you get the help that you need.