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Just broken things off

My husband... Not sure that's the right word. Had mental health. He's let me down time and time again. Not been there at key points in life. We were working things through but I had to leave home whilst pregnant as I needed help with my oldest and he wasn't mentally able to. We were working things out and it all looked so good. We were relocating to closer to my parents. Then my youngest 5 month old got sick. Husband was there until I was admitted onto the ward. I sent him home to help get my oldest to school as my parents work and they couldn't. He had a break down the next day. I was waiting for him to come up. I had to sit and watch them put a drip into my babies hand alone. I continued to look at the door waiting for him. When I phoned him he sounded sleepy and said he was still at home. He didn't feel well enough to come up. I'm crushed first I don't know if breaking off with him was the right idea. If I was being dramatic. But at the same time I'm thinking I can't keep going through this! Not sure what else there is to do. I just venting.

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So sorry to hear this and hope you're Ok despite the circumstances. Mental health is not easy and it's very challenging for the person as well more for those around them. But they do have to take ownership of it and sometimes access help in order to be their best. Sending you hugs and love ❤️

Follow your heart and gut, if it’s telling you to leave then do that, it’s not worth your mental health and not being happy around your kids.

I’m by no means defending his current actions but if he’s mentally unwell/severley depressed then it would be a struggle to be there for you and your son as it’s a really selfish illness. I’m not saying it’s ok and I would be so disappointed in him if I was in your shoes is he getting help for it at all? That would only be the only way I’d consider trying to continue to fix the relationship. If not then as others say you have to look after yourself and kids first

@Josie he's getting help. Hes on medication and he was doing well. Its always when I need him this happens. And the fact he didn't tell me he wasn't coming. Its just a mess

@Samantha are big situations a trigger for him? It’s not really ok that he didn’t tell you he was too unwell to come until you rang him

@Josie the situation was probably stressful and every big situation has caused him to have attacks. I've been left in hospital after giving birth. And Ive taken a new born to hospital because I couldn't wake him for food. My mum came with me. My husband wasn't there. I just feel like this time was one time to many

@Samantha if it’s reacurring on big situations and even though he is receiving help if he’s not gone back to see what else can be done as could be a different type of meds needed, then yes could be time to finish it as hes not supporting you at all

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