Sneaking around?

What to do if you think your partners sneaking around with the neighbors but have no proof? I’ve already accused him he says he’s not. (He likes to go on walks a lot and disappears) or likes to go on drives. He’s always been like that but his behavior is odd and the females in my neighborhood act overly friendly around me or sometimes just look at me weird. Idk if it’s just me or him. I’m not sure if I’m paranoid. He has cheated before. I feel I’m going insane. No income right now. What do I do?

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So I've asked my partner as his ex chested on him with a neighbour whilst he was on tour in the army. He caught her out by going away for deployment but telling her the time wrong. He left 10am by 11am she had the neighbour about by half 12 He was leaving and she was in a towel kissing him goodbye. He says if your gut is telling you somethings wrong and he's got a history it highly likely youre right sadly. If he had cheated and truly wanted to change he wouldn't even risk you worrying about anything. Maybe see if there's a council or charity that can support depending on your situation. You deserve better sugar. Anxiety is not a love language xx

Leave him he’s a cheater

I know it’s hard but leave. Or at least slowly remove yourself emotionally until you can finally leave. Once they cheat and you take them back they just keep doing it cause they know you’re gonna stay. Try and get some income and family who you can stay with. You don’t wanna waste your time being mistreated you will regret it. You’re blocking a good man from coming into your life. And it’s much better to be single and lonely than in a relationship constantly hurt and suspicious.

@Sun Asia & thank u for everyone who responded 🙏🏼 The only thing is this my place, everything’s in my name. And I have embarrassed myself I feel like. I have an attitude now with certain neighbors and don’t want my kids playing with their kids. I use to love all the kids coming to my place and now I feel really depressed haven’t been taking care of myself. Ive been looking really rough, hairs a mess, I’m overweight, breaking out from stress, stopped going to work. I use to be well put together. I feel like everyone is judging me and I don’t know how to come back from this. I’m not strong enough to tell him to leave because I’m scared he’ll try to take the kids when he feels like it and I don’t have income at the moment. I feel like a bad person for taking his money and then telling him to leave

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Potty training a boy

I’ve started potty training he’s peed multiple times and pooped once. And seems to know when I put him on the potty he should pee because he tries to every time. But the issue I’m having is him knowing when he has to and letting me know. Sometimes he will with poop but it’s usually while he’s actually popping. I don’t know what to do to get him to realize he has to go. Appreciate any advice or tips!😊

Is he in the wrong here or am I?

My partner of 4 years is not the father of my 3 children I have to my ex husband, my ex and I had a bad break up, things took a sudden nasty turn after a long rime together, dv, courts injunction but things u turned and he has a timetable with the kids now. He sees them every other weekend for just the day and some half terms but not too much really. He pays maintenance and he has for 4 years even when he couldnt see them. He called n said his changing jobs and he needs to pay 250 less this month and then for the next few weeks he will pay weekly instead of monthly and add some extra on so the 250 less will get paid back. My partner said if he cant pay he cant have them.. if he cant afford to pay this week properly he cant afford to havr the kids next week in half term. He asked for a Monday til friday with them, he wants to take them the cinema and trampoline park and to see family. I said child maintenance and his quality time with the kids are two seperate things just as what happened between me and him is seperate to how he is a father am I wrong ? Is he wrong ? What would you do ?

How would you feel towards them???

If you had been arranging a surprise party for over a year, meaning these people had a year in advance to plan time off or literally anything else, only for them to cancel one by one the same day you confirmed they’re available, how would you feel towards them?! Two are saying they used the time off for various family members emergencies. One doesnt know if they can, because heaven forbid they actually write one weekend off for a friend of a lifetime, over his girlfriend of three years. Another is apparently changing jobs and can’t take time off(yeah because you definitely cant ask when starting a job for time off🙄(I’ve personally done this and never had an issue)). And his very best friend? Apparently having heart issues out of no where at 28 years old, and what would you know, the only day they can do his echo is literally his best friends birthday… *(Keep in mind, we have a child who has had OHS ourselves. We aren’t strangers to heart issues). Would you want to find out you possibly have a heart issue on your best friends bday out of any day of the year? Not only that but its a milestone. He turns 30. Most of them do this year too. It was supposed to be one last weekend hurrah but instead they all decided to flake at literally the last possible minute. I genuinely hate these guys. Ive known them since HS. I figured they would at least show up. Nope. I tried. I did. I tried… Because of them all the plans are ruined.

Don’t know what to do. CPS

What do you do when you get a call at work saying your husband was arrested and your kids are being taken away from you.
House is empty. No laughing no crying. Don’t even remember the laugh or the coos from your baby before leaving to go work at 10. All because my step daughter said that she got hit by daddy with a baseball bat while sleeping. And my son who is 2 fell down a flight of stairs in a walker while I was away at work. Police, homeless shelter managers and my sister in law and mother in law came thank god I called them.

Everything is finalized till next week Wednesday. What do you do?

I can only hope and pray and go to work and pray my babies get back to me…

Partner/Husband Support

So many women seem to have the same problem of their partner thinking being a sahm means they do not contribute to the home or kids. So many women, even the ones who work, seem to be carrying the load of running the family with men who although supportive have to be given instructions on what they are to do. It’s quite interesting.
Do your partners do pretty well with helping? Are any of you in a relationship where now u feel u want to end things because you see your partner has a unrealistic expectation of rearing children and maintaining a home? Is it how you thought things would go? Did you and partner overcome this challenge?

development

my LB is two and i feel an immense guilt because i feel like im delaying him. i compare him to other kids his age who are in nursery i know and theyre so much better with talking etc. i try so hard to do like a mock nursery environment at home but i just feel like im holding him back, does anyone else feel like this?