What should I do?

Today's my boyfriend's birthday ! He didn't tell me he was not coming back home last night . Am I wrong for a feeling a way ? I'm kinda scared to call and ask because I don't wanna ruin his birthday by asking him UPDATE: I ended up calling him. he said he was on the way back home but he never came back home. He's been gone the whole day and now I'm honestly very upset. He said he was tired and went to his friends house after telling me he was coming back after 3 hours of him telling me he was on the way back home. It's now been the whole day and his birthday pretty much over and he still hasn't came home. I'm just feeling really hurt honestly. I don't wanna just do something based off of emotion. I did text him telling him I don't like being lied to and he texted back he's at the studio. What should I do regarding this situation? Like I don't mind him being out I just don't like being lied to at all. He could have just told me he not coming back today instead of having me thinking he was coming back

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What do you want to do? What does your gut instinct tell you?

I really want to break up with him at this point but I don’t wanna think with emotions and not logically like is there something that can be done without having to break up with him ?

@Lyss

I mean I can only speak on what I see you posted but it sounds like you are the one trying… actively trying to communicate and keep the relationship going… while he is lying. And disrespecting your time. I don’t think these things are based on emotions. There is definitely logical reasoning behind how you feel. I do understand your emotions I’m sure are heightened but it’s not because you are being over emotional in any way. Your feelings and expectations are valid. You definitely deserve someone who would not lie. That’s the bare minimum.

Give that man an ultimatum for sure. Stand your ground and let him know your feelings aren’t to be fucked with.

Thank you ladies cause he has done this before a few days ago and he apologized now he literally did it again today and not even an apology was given. I guess I’m only really trying cause he already met my son and I don’t wanna let my son down :(

Your son will be more let down by an upset mother & an absent (step)father. 🤍

Think of it as setting a healthy role model for your kid. He can see you standing up for yourself and having boundaries. That you don’t settle. That way when your son grows up he can learn to have healthy relationships. And also, you don’t want a liar around your kid. You want someone that not only you will respect your time but also your son. What if your son was expecting him too… so only he will let down your son… not you. You got this!

Thank you ladies for giving me the courage

It's hard but if you let go of him you will find someone that treats you a lot better. Talking from experience. I used to be with someone like that and I hung around for way too long. My now husband is so different. We plan our birthdays together and I don't have the anxieties I used to have with other guys. X

This sounds very shady to me, why would he go to his friend's instead of home if he was tired? How long have you been together? Also if it's his birthday why wouldn't he want to spend it with you, at least part of it? I think your son also deserves a better male role model in his life

We been together for four months so far and he said he was closer ti his friend and he was an hour away from me already and he was doing DoorDash I did see on my app he was .

I was thinking the same as well as to why he didn’t wanna spend part of his birthday with me

You’re definitely right he does deserve a better male role model

@Elisabeta Furtuna

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