Am I an asshole for being annoyed?
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I would text back saying you’ve had to take the majority of the week off work so now whether he’s well or not it’s his turn to take care of his child so that you can go to work to pay bills.
No, you're not wrong. Does he mean it's in his best interest? What'd the matter with him? I'd call him and just say it's not OK and you will be dropping your child off as normal x
My son’s dad takes him when he’s poorly. You’re right
Sounds like if they are already ill anyway it's the perfect time for her to recover with them and have a more chilled out weekend together so you can work. Tell him you've already had her sick for 4 days, it's his turn to step up now.
He's such a narcissist, so whatever he says is set in stone. I wouldn't be surprised if it were for him to go out tonight on a date 🤷♀️
You have every right to be annoyed, I would be too. However, they might have a different strain of whatever your daughter has and they could infect her with that.. and vice versa. Hope everyone recovers quickly and things get back to normal soon!
I understand where both of you are coming!! My bd and I share every other weekend.. if our son is sick just stays with me period. Now the difference is I do not work and he does. THERE IS NO REASON TO PASS THE SICKNESS AROUND.
It's a difficult one because he might genuinely have her best interests at heart and doesn't want to risk getting her ill again or knows she will want you. I know when my daughter is ill she doesn't want to be with her dad at all and just cries and pushes him away if he tries to pay her attention. But he could also just not want to deal with her and if that is the case he needs to work with you to make sure you can work when you need to in order to care for your daughter. It's a tough one if you don't know his intentions behind it. I think single mums have a harder job in general and i take my hat off to you all. I can imagine it gets very frustrating at times.
Since when does being ill stop someone from being a parent? Your ex is the AH and needs to take his daughter, regardless of his manflu. Also, tell him to compensate you for the week you’ve had to take off. It’s his child as much as it is yours. The inconvenience needs to be shared.
Tell him to get some paracetemol and get on with it
Just an update - he hasn't even checked in once today to see how his daughter is. We normally message everyday (she's 2) about what she's ate/done etc and send multiple photos throughout the day. He does the same on weekends. Not one text since this morning to see how she's doing etc.
I clicked the one wrong! He should still parent unless he’s at deaths door!
I don’t know if I am petty or not, but if I were you, I’d ask him to send me the exact amount I would have earned over the weekend. 🤔
I’m still with the father of my child however when he’s ill he doesn’t continue to parent either! But when us mums are poorly, we just have to get on with it and it’s frustrating. I can understand why you’d be annoyed. Having a poorly child is hard enough in itself but now you won’t get a much needed break x