It’s tricky. I think I would be a little bothered, but it’s also not something I need to be privy to. They can be friends and it not affect you. Your SIL should just be mindful that this is someone who’s hurt you. Maybe you should tell her how you feel as well
Thank you. I want to be really emotionally mature about this and it’s hard because I’m so angry and hurt. I feel betrayed and baffled as to why my family member would want to seek a friendship with someone they know has hurt me and cut me, my daughter and bump off. I want to be very rational and not let my emotions take over: my SIL knows how I feel..
If the former bestie does this to everyone then your SIL will see it eventually. You can communicate your feelings and your need to cut that person out of your life but she has a right to be friends with whomever she chooses. Be hurt but I don’t feel it’s something to dwell on. Rise above and focus on your little family.
Well, now she’s involved and they will likely have a moment of conversation about you….hopefully sister in law will remember you are family and to limit any shit talking. It’s sucks but unfortunately they’re grown adults and it is what it is. I wouldn’t share information to that level with SIL moving forward. Additionally, it sounds like you dodged a bull with ex bestie. Perhaps sister in law will one day have enough of whatever horribleness this new besties of her has in store. I’m glad you got out of a messy friendship and try to not let her penetrate into your life.