Am I cutting my nose off to spite face?

They don’t sound like very good friends to me.

I don't think you'd be the bad person if you cut contact. Clearly they don't give a fuck. If they want to come visit all of a sudden when the baby, is here I'd tell them to go do one! Where were you when I needed support during pregnancy?? Everyone loves a cute baby

You don't owe anyone anything. Not even family. In fact, especially when it's family

Depending on your relationship with them I would be tempted to tell them all of this! That you feel like not even telling them when baby has arrived because they don't seem to express an interest. Open up the conversation with them as to why they don't ask about you. They might have a good or well-intentioned reason. And if they don't... well, cutting contact is well founded. But you might not have the kind of relationship with these people that make such a conversation easy, or desirable. That's okay too. But once baby is here, you might need some of them to lean on- I would be a little cautious of cutting all ties completely. You might regret it later.

I’m not saying cutting ties/ cutting them off… I mean simply not telling them when my baby arrives until they reach out. Not pandering to them and just focusing on me and baby.

I know how you feel I was same during my pregnancy, like it’s not a lonely enough time anyway 😭 if they get angry then it’s their own fault for not checking up on you! They’ll probably also fuss over the baby when here, soon as newborn stage is over you’ll probably notice they will distance again.. that was my experience anyway just a heads up! Hope you’re okay and all goes well ❤️

I don’t think you’d be the bad person, or extreme. It’s tough being pregnant, and it’s super hard when it feels like no one cares. Tell them when you’re ready! Me and my husband did this, we had three days all to ourselves. It was the BEST decision ever. They still haven’t made an effort and our little one 16 months old. We’re pregnant again and have only told those how have made an effort.

I would just stop contacting them until they reach to you. You will see how long it takes them to realize you stopped, if it happens at all. They will miss the newborn stage, the first months, maybe first babbling or even first steps. But ask yourself, do you need them in your life? Do they deserve to enjoy your baby? Hold him (her)? It might sound harsh, but people that you have to ask for attention, are not interested at all.

Ah this is hard isn’t it! My family suck too. My mum and sister have not asked me anything either and I’m 30 weeks. My friends are more supportive. I think you should definitely enjoy your bubble when you birth, put the phone aside for a couple days and when you feel ready it’s still worth sending them one of those photos with baby, weight, birth time etc and leave it at that. The generic photo you show friends and work colleagues. So you include them but if they want to know about YOU they can reach out. It sucks though! It’s so amazing to be growing this life! And going through all these body changes and raging hormones!! At the end of the day, a lot of people just don’t care. But don’t let that get to you. Choose to be happy in yourself and love this pregnancy and enjoy these last few days. They are so precious! If you want to talk pregnancy and babies feel free to pm me ☺️

I know the feeling I have my dad living with me he’ll feed the babies but won’t make them bottles it’s like your helping me but you ain’t

If you were not telling people because you were happy with your little family and not looking for any external validation or support, then that sounds fine. But, it sounds like you are doing a kind of “test” to see how long it takes people to ask and you really do want them to ask, and the longer it takes for them to ask the more upset you’re going to be… So, I would not do that to yourself. Set yourself up for success not disappointment. Ask people for what you want/need rather than expecting them to just know and offer.

I don’t mean this to sound harsh but your pregnancy isn’t going to be nearly as interesting or momentous to everyone else as it is to you. People have other things going on in their own lives that can tend to take up their attention. I also think there could be a lot of other things going on. People who had relatively good uneventful pregnancies not expecting anything to be wrong. People who’ve never had kids just really really not being able to understand what it’s like. people feeling like it’s weird to be prying. I’m just saying there could be a lot of reasons that people aren’t checking on you that don’t mean they don’t care about you. I also think there’s a chance that people are asking how you are when they talk to you (because that’s just normal conversation) but you’re expecting something much more which may or may not be realistic

Wait until you give birth, I think this os actually better in a way as everyone offers to babysit and we'll do this and that with the baby together. You give birth and if you talk about your baby for more than a few minutes you have become that person. You will make new friends that will get it xx

@Jessica thank you. It’s definitely good to hear this. I think this is really great when applying to friends and its mindful of another perspective. I wouldn’t apply this to my family though; personally. Thank you for replying, I will definitely keep this in mind Xx

@Jennifer yeah it’s not because I’m ‘happy’ but an action coming from a place of resent and anger. So you’re completely right. I love what you said about setting myself up for success rather than disappointment. I think I’ll keep a day to myself, to absorb everything, refocus and soak in the moment. Then tell family/ friends after a day or two. Xx

Dm me if u want x hope ur ok