Financial support from baby daddy

Long story short me and daughters dad are together but don’t live with each other as I live with my parents he lives with his. His parents have no involvement with our daughter so she lives with me full time. We both work full him he’s on a better wage than me but does pay a bit more on bills for car insurance and lodge. Our daughters creche monthly is around £600 which we agreed to pay half each but he tends to switch jobs often and needs to work week in hand and ends up short on money so I pick up the slack paying the full amount and wait until the following week for him to pay. This is the ONLY money I receive from him. Anything else she needs like nappies/wipes/clothes + genersl baby bits comes out of my money. Paying snack for creche comes out of my money. Weekly shop food comes out of my money. (He doesn’t often eat with us but it’s still my money again that goes towards his daughter) if she was to have a haircut that would be my money. Days out are mostly my money as it’s usually just me and her but even when he is with us it tends to be my money. His words were I get more money from him than if we was to split and receive CSA. He literally ONLY pays half of creche with me surly this is not normal? If we were to split and declare creche fees would he need to pay half creche fees and more money on top for other things? I’m at a point of needing to give up my full time job that I love just so I don’t need to pay creche fees

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My BD gives me £300 a month and most of the time her nursery fees are £500+ so the majority does cover that. In terms of CSA, he is right. The ‘maintenance’ money does not include childcare.

@Scarlett so he gives you £300 which helps towards the creche fees but doesn’t pay anything else to support with other bits she needs?x

Yeah. Well the £300 is for whatever but obviously I have to use it for childcare. I will occasionally ask him to pick up bits from the shop but same as you mostly it’s my money. Days out etc I pay for.

Child support is based on how much he is earning. They will also look at things like if she stays with him overnight and how much he contributes now but I always think it better to have a formal agreement that he can't get out of and that just comes straight from his wages.

Ladies.... if you are struggling WITH a man in your life y'all need to throw that man away and be single or find another one especiallyif they'rethreatening to leave you and still giving you a few pennies tf. Stop tolerating this pretence they love giving to women that they cant or dk how to. However if you are still in love with the character and wanna stay you absolutely need to change how things go financially because after daycare the kid is in school Then what?? That will be his contribution towards what?? Not acceptable and please don't tolerate it. Hope you can manage to sort something out.

@Annabel exactly. They like threatening women with a couple of hundreds yrt they are supposed to be together or avoiding courts. I'd rather the few monies that ik he has to provide rather than playing the game of fake catch ups because he gives whenever he feels like.

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