Am I being unreasonable?

38 weeks pregnant - my partner and I had a discussion last week about him not drinking over the driving limit so he can drive to the hospital if I go into labour. Due to complications, I will need a section under general anaesthetic, so partner will go straight to baby after birth whilst I come round. Tonight, he has come home and had 3 large (660ml) beers and started in on a glass of wine when I reminded him we had said about not going over the limit this close to due date, and that I feel unsupported in him disregarding this less than a week after we talked about it. He's now in a strop. Am I being unreasonable here? He went out and got wasted last Friday night for a friend's birthday, so it isn't like he hasn't had a night drinking, and I haven't asked him to stop completely, just enough so he can still drive and only now, 2 weeks before due date. He said we can always get a taxi to the hospital, but I think this is missing the point? He also got very offended when I said I felt unsupported over this.

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Not at all! Can you drink no, so why should he be able to, your both having this baby right? You already have to deal with the pain but you are completely in the right. In my opinion he should have given up drink full stop while your pregnant! Same as you did! X

Absolutely not, I had a VERY straightforward pregnancy and my partner stopped drinking over the limit when I was 35 weeks. He is 100% missing the point. If you go into labour you want your partner there supporting you; not being drunk. I’m sorry he’s not listening to you, that must be really hard. Maybe try speaking to him when he’s not had a drink? Xx

Absolutely not unreasonable in the slightest

Oh my god agree with the ladies above, you're not being unreasonable at all. My OH actually thought about it before it crossed my mind and stopped after one drink over about 34 weeks if I remember. You don't want to be waiting around for a sodding taxi, is he being serious???!!!

Not unreasonable at all! He should be taking some responsibility. X

Not unreasonable at all. My partner decided himself to not have more than one drink all over the Christmas period and NYE as I was due 2nd Jan! It’s reckless and he is stropping because he knows you’re right

Another man with "why on earth should you having a baby affect me" syndrome 🙄

He’s acting like a baby himself! What is he like 16? He needs to grow a pair and really be there for you. You’re having a baby now. It’s no joke. Sorry you’re having to go through this but it makes me mad that men think they can do this.

My partner stopped drinking all together once I hit 37 weeks and will only ever drink 1 beer max, we’re 5 months post partum. I told him I won’t have him look after the baby whilst tipsy and he totally agrees. There’s plenty of alcohol free options out there, if he needs it that much.

Yeah he's a selfish arse

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