Living with in-laws

Anyone currently living with in-laws. How is it going how do you make it through the week. I currently live with mine and it is a challenge. I am not the type who have a problem with criticism but when it comes to parenting I immediately get offended I’m good at holding in emotions but at some point Ik I’m going to blow. Any advice?

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I’m at the point where I’m trying to be invisible but it’s hard when they’re always walking in. And I just gotta take it cus I live with them. I love them to death but I can’t take it

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Are you Pakistani ??

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I live with my in laws as well. Some days its nice and i agree it can be difficult when thqt stuff comes up. On the positive side- you have free babysitting (hopefully!), help with cleaning or cooking, maybe some days you could sleep in a little so they can watch the kids. But I agree- sometimes stuff it old school or they dont do anymore “but it worked for them”. I just politely say okay and talk with my husband later about it. I feel that too, that some days its nice I might just snap 😂 i have conversations/scenarios with myself about what she could say to me that would tip me over and how i would react. But i try to just take deep breaths and think on the bright side she may just try to be helpful and do what she did that worked back then.

My inlaws like to come home to clean house and food after work and sometimes with 2 kids that is hard lol. They think that I just get to “go out and play all day”. So we have come up with a compromise.

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See this would’ve sent me.. cus what you get you man 😂

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😂😂 parents in general stay worried about what somebody else got going on. Be trynna check us before checking they self

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she’s too comfortable saying that🙄 she knows everything you do for him? Lord

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I live with mine, they get too involved sometimes and my MIL drives me insane

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😩happy to know I’m not the only one going insane

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My MIL is a complainer no matter if the situation has nothing to do with her. Everybody problem is her problem. And I be on an emotional roller coaster being pregnant and in this house with her and having a toddler too only breaks I get is when she’s at work but she still be calling demanding stuff 😭😭

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I schedule my week around them. The days I know they'll be home I make plans to go out. Or if they're not home, I'll do my chores. Regardless my mil avoids me as well so it makes it easy

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I lived with my in-laws for awhile then had to move out cause his mom was too much for me to handle anymore when it came to my daughter and her son. I was always in the wrong when it came to her

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Living with the in laws is great for the free babysitting or for me to be able to eat
But sometimes I want to be alone too and can’t get that privacy so it also sucks at times
Or also having to clean up a mess that ain’t mine because they leave a mess. But then I don’t pay any rent here so I guess I’m okay doing it sometimes
I love my privacy too much and I remember staying up in the bedroom with my baby because their idea of helping me postpartum was holding my baby.
I keep telling myself:
I appreciate them but it’s not ideal and wont last forever. I can’t wait to move out with my boyfriend

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My sister-in-law lived with my husband and I for a year. She never picked up after herself, kept an attitude, lazy, no job, had people over unannounced, & told her dad all our personal business. I really tried to get along with her most days but it got to where I felt like I had another toddler. It took a toll on us & my mental health. I would try to avoid being in the same room as her, basically started ignoring her. She was bad for questioning our decisions or ignoring their schedule and eating habits dealing with our toddlers, so a lot of the time she would go behind our backs asking the same question to one or the other usually leading to an argument between my husband and I or saying something to her dad about the argument or personal troubles she caused. I have learned with my family & his it’s okay to be emotional & let them know you tried being respectful but they are overstepping clear boundaries and when you need advice/help, you will initiate that conversation.

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Family is complicated but at some point you have to put your foot down. I had some of the same struggles with my sister in law and my own family who live 5 mins away the past 2.5 years until I broke down, I’m only beginning to recover mentally. It damaged our familial relationship a bit, but it’s better than being questioned and stepped on leading your kids to look to them more than you as an authority/parental figure completely disregarding you as they get older. Before we talked to them, my husband and I had the conversation first to get our feelings out and come to an agreement. They now understand clear boundaries, we had to prove we were serious by threatening to cut them out of our kids life if they could not stop overstepping boundaries. Funny thing is, we get compliments from them and strangers at how behaved our kids are

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Would not recommend to anybody if you can avoid it! I did this and it almost broke my little family. 2 mothers under one roof is not good even if one is the mother to a grown man

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My daughter is nearly 10 months old and starting nursery next month. I want to send my daughter in with lunches so I know shes eating healthy meals but I'm honestly so lost as to what to put in her little bento lunch box that will keep till lunch time and doesnt need reheating. Ive been doing loads of baby led weaning at home, but I tend to make it fresh or pull stuff from the freezer I've previously made and defrost and reheat.
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Car issues

Idk if I’m in the wrong. I have a full time job. My husband takes care of the kids while I worked. Today was the day I was supposed to get us a car. But I couldn’t cause of the down payment. So now he’s texting me saying I’m wasting his day to be alone at Walmart so he can spend his tax return. I really want to say go ahead. Leave. Leave the kids and me alone. While you go out and spend money. While your at go ahead and buy urself your drugs and a bitch to go fuck.

Lucky I’m even thinking about him about the car situation if not I would’ve been buying me and the kids a car small enough for us!

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THIS DUMB 🍑 MF

LET ME BREAK IT DOWN 🤣🤣

THIS MAN DRIVES AN ELECTRIC CAR WHERE HE CAN PLUG HIMSELF IN (NORMALLY DOES TO DO DOORDASH ETC)
AND IT HAD A SPOT TO WIRELESSLY CHARGE
SOME HOW WITH 4 HOURS OF WORKING HE DIDN'T EVEN MAKE 20 BUCKS TO WASH CLOTHS ANOTHER RED FLAG

TWO NIGHTS AGO
HE CLAIMS TO GO OUT TO WORK. HANGS UP ON ME MID CONVERSATION 👀👀

4 HOURS PAST I'M GETTING SLEEPY STILL HAVEN'T HEARD FROM HIM
IT'S LIKE 1:30AM I TEXT HIM NIGHT I'M MAD CONFUSED ALMOST AN HOUR LATER I ANT HEARD FROM HIM SO I CHECK MY TEXT.
THE SHIT SAYS "PHONE OFFLINE" AND SHOWS THE TIME FRAME MY TEXT DIDN'T SEND
SO I START CALLING TO CONFIRM CAUSE I THOUGHT SOMETHING HAPPENED TO HIM. HE'S BEEN IN 2 CAR ACCIDENTS 👀 NEITHER HIS FAULT

SO I GET FRANTIC MY GUY

3:14 ROLLS AROUND I CALL AGAIN SURPRISE HE PICKS UP.
CLAIMS HIS PHONE DIED WHILE HE'S HANGING OUT AND HAVING A VERY "GOOD" CONVERSATION. HE WON'T TELL ME WHERE HE'S AT OR WHO WITH. MIND YOU THIS MAN CHEATED ON ME WHILE I WAS 33 WEEKS PREGNANT.

SO AT THIS POINT I'M PISSED OFF AND I TELL HIM I'M HANGING UP CAUSE I LOOK STUPID BEING WORRIED.

HE TURNS AROUND WHILE NOT BEING AROUND THIS CHICK AND FINALLY TELLS ME ALL THE DETAILS.

BTW YES WE MIGHT BE POLY BUT HE'S POSTED HIMSELF AS SOLO POLY WHILE LIVING WITH ME!! HE THINKS I'M. STUPID WITH ALSO THIS SNEAKY SHIT.

IF I WAS TO DO WHAT HE'S DOING HE'D LOOSE IT.
BUT I'M ABOUT TO GO OUTSIDE!! CAUSE YOU PLAYING IN MY FACE

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Resentment and placing blame on partner

Firstly, please don’t judge me - I’m aware all my thoughts aren’t rational and I do already feel badly about them

I’m finding myself becoming easily frustrated, annoyed, and placing a lot of blame on my partner for many things. Now I’d get it if he was rubbish but he’s not - he has the baby straight away when he gets home from work, he lets me get ready and shower before he goes to work, he pitches in with the chores and gives me any time I ask for off. He doesn’t go out loads either.

I do a lot of the mental labour - realising we need more of and purchasing clothes, milk, groceries, deciding dinner, cooking, cleaning, thinking about what baby needs, etc.

However I just find myself annoyed and blaming him for so many things I find difficult. I know this isn’t fair, but it’s almost like I’m angry that he’s finding it easy and I’m not. Angry if I’ve just got the baby to sleep and he doesn’t think and closes doors to loudly. Angry when he doesn’t dress baby warm enough, or when he puts him in a car seat with a coat on. When he forgets a blanket or doesn’t wash his hands and plays with him. When hes snoring and I’ve just got the baby to drift off.

We have had many conversations and he has tried to take loads off me but it never feels like enough for me to stop being annoyed with him.

Am I experiencing some sort of post partum mental health issues? I find myself upset and crying a lot. any advice would help.

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What would u do? What should i do

So to try to explain this in the best way possible I have a very small apartment.
I opened my back door which leads directly to the laundry room of the building. Lately, I started bringing my son in the laundry room with me because he bangs on the door and tries to get out.

Today I opened the door to get my stuff out of the dryer. I saw I guess my neighbor putting stuff in the washer. It’s a very tight space so I closed the door and was planning on going back after he leave instead of crowding up the space with the baby. Plus I was in shorts and had no bra on, it was an older man.

I latched my door with the dead lock as I usually do so that I do not get locked out and I just left it that way without thinking about it.

I turned my back walk maybe about 5-7steps. My apartment is barely 15 steps front to back.
Turn around. Realize my baby is GONE he’s only 16 months!

I start yelling for him. I approach the door and I hear my son laughing…
The man had opened my door to lure my son in the laundry room with him without me knowing!!!!!!!

They were playing 🤯

He was there for no more then 20-30 seconds if that. It happened so fast, he doesn’t speak good English he’s polish
My door usually slams loud when closed, so this was done quietly…..


When I discovered that the man was with my son, I was trying to simply take my kid back in the house, but he continued on playing and I was yelling at my son that he shouldn’t be wondering without me.

No, first off I know for a fact, my son did not open the door number one. It’s very heavy and number two. He doesn’t know how to open doors yet.

And I asked the man straight out did my son open the door and he said no I did.

My son could get the door to open maybe an inch, I know that. So he must have done that and the man just decided to open it and bring my son with him.

I’m so outraged. Annoyed, uncomfortable. I live alone just me and my son.

What do I do?

I don’t know if he is maybe a visitor, I see his car sometimes but usually it’s another person who looks like him with a different car. Maybe my neighbors dad is my best bet.


Anyway. What should I do? Should I bring this to management. Should I approach my neighbor and figure out exactly who that was?

Thanks ladies wish me luck

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Struggling with IMMATURE dad 😪

Had issues pre- baby, drug use, drinking nearly every weekend, viscous cycle calms down, behaves then back to it. Calms down again wants to change, wants to be be a good dad and loves his daughter so stops going out.. but tonight out of no where, goes to football wins a game and turns his phone off so I can’t even get hold of him. What do you with this sort of behaviour? I feel so stuck and feel like I can’t get out of this relationship as he can be so manipulative. Struggling financially so he’s also spending money we don’t have and need for our baby.
Any help or advice would be appreciated 😢

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