Living with in-laws

i live with my fiance and his fam its annoying sometimes. i’m at the point where i try to avoid being seen. they’re not bad ppl just tired of being around them.

I’m at the point where I’m trying to be invisible but it’s hard when they’re always walking in. And I just gotta take it cus I live with them. I love them to death but I can’t take it

Are you Pakistani ??

I live with my in laws as well. Some days its nice and i agree it can be difficult when thqt stuff comes up. On the positive side- you have free babysitting (hopefully!), help with cleaning or cooking, maybe some days you could sleep in a little so they can watch the kids. But I agree- sometimes stuff it old school or they dont do anymore “but it worked for them”. I just politely say okay and talk with my husband later about it. I feel that too, that some days its nice I might just snap 😂 i have conversations/scenarios with myself about what she could say to me that would tip me over and how i would react. But i try to just take deep breaths and think on the bright side she may just try to be helpful and do what she did that worked back then. My inlaws like to come home to clean house and food after work and sometimes with 2 kids that is hard lol. They think that I just get to “go out and play all day”. So we have come up with a compromise.

lol MIL just came in to ask what we’re doing for vday and what we get (we did nothing and got each other nothing) she said that i need to be fair and get him something cause he always get me something. like lady i know that but you also know i haven’t had a job since i found out i was pregnant, so i have no money 😭😭

See this would’ve sent me.. cus what you get you man 😂

and now i’m sitting here mad cause why didn’t i say that 😭😭😭😭

😂😂 parents in general stay worried about what somebody else got going on. Be trynna check us before checking they self

right like ooooohhhh!! my blood is boilinggg!! its okay though 🥹 its ok

@Sequoia she’s too comfortable saying that🙄 she knows everything you do for him? Lord

I live with mine, they get too involved sometimes and my MIL drives me insane

😩happy to know I’m not the only one going insane

@Cyn and don’t!

@Cyn same here girl..really hope it gets better for us

My MIL is a complainer no matter if the situation has nothing to do with her. Everybody problem is her problem. And I be on an emotional roller coaster being pregnant and in this house with her and having a toddler too only breaks I get is when she’s at work but she still be calling demanding stuff 😭😭

I schedule my week around them. The days I know they'll be home I make plans to go out. Or if they're not home, I'll do my chores. Regardless my mil avoids me as well so it makes it easy

I lived with my in-laws for awhile then had to move out cause his mom was too much for me to handle anymore when it came to my daughter and her son. I was always in the wrong when it came to her

@Yazmin aw man :(

Living with the in laws is great for the free babysitting or for me to be able to eat But sometimes I want to be alone too and can’t get that privacy so it also sucks at times Or also having to clean up a mess that ain’t mine because they leave a mess. But then I don’t pay any rent here so I guess I’m okay doing it sometimes I love my privacy too much and I remember staying up in the bedroom with my baby because their idea of helping me postpartum was holding my baby. I keep telling myself: I appreciate them but it’s not ideal and wont last forever. I can’t wait to move out with my boyfriend

@Reina i can relate to this as well

My sister-in-law lived with my husband and I for a year. She never picked up after herself, kept an attitude, lazy, no job, had people over unannounced, & told her dad all our personal business. I really tried to get along with her most days but it got to where I felt like I had another toddler. It took a toll on us & my mental health. I would try to avoid being in the same room as her, basically started ignoring her. She was bad for questioning our decisions or ignoring their schedule and eating habits dealing with our toddlers, so a lot of the time she would go behind our backs asking the same question to one or the other usually leading to an argument between my husband and I or saying something to her dad about the argument or personal troubles she caused. I have learned with my family & his it’s okay to be emotional & let them know you tried being respectful but they are overstepping clear boundaries and when you need advice/help, you will initiate that conversation.

Family is complicated but at some point you have to put your foot down. I had some of the same struggles with my sister in law and my own family who live 5 mins away the past 2.5 years until I broke down, I’m only beginning to recover mentally. It damaged our familial relationship a bit, but it’s better than being questioned and stepped on leading your kids to look to them more than you as an authority/parental figure completely disregarding you as they get older. Before we talked to them, my husband and I had the conversation first to get our feelings out and come to an agreement. They now understand clear boundaries, we had to prove we were serious by threatening to cut them out of our kids life if they could not stop overstepping boundaries. Funny thing is, we get compliments from them and strangers at how behaved our kids are