Need advice

My fiance and I have been together since we were 16, so 9 years this year. Our daughter is now 3 and for some reason ever since having her I have no sex drive. I still love my fiancé but I never want to have sex. I do it for him because he wants to but I could go months without it. Before having her I was never like this but now I could care less about it. I still love him but I just do not want to have sex anymore at all. What do I do?

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You’re probably stressed with being a mommy, being a fiancé and working. It is completely normal for a lot of women. Take a moment to yourself. It’ll come back

Tbh I think that’s just the effects of being together for a while and pregnancy. My husband and I have known each other for 10 years been together for 5 plus dating and being bff’s once in high school. We have two toddlers. I have no sex drive most of the time during & after pregnancy. I sat him down and explained it to him. He was okay with it, but I felt guilty eventually I accepted it’s okay to not be as sexually active anymore. My husband and I have sex once a week maybe twice if we’re really feeling it and aren’t too tired or have time. We love each other whole-heartedly but also understand sex just isn’t a big part of our life anymore especially as we get older. My advice is that you could have a conversation with him explaining how you feel and how he feels, try to spice your sex life up in the bedroom with new “things”, take some time to find yourself outside being a mom/fiancé. But you’re not alone in this struggle, I thinks it’s something everyone goes through.

@Tiffany thank you for this❤️

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