Am I being a bitch about my MIL coming over too often?
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No honestly If I see mine twice a year it's too much
Does she sleep on the couch? Why can't your sister hangout in the living room if your mil is there. I would say she must feel lonely and wants to see her grandchildren. I see nothing wrong with that. She can't expect any special treatment or a clean house unless she's willing to clean it and cook herself
If you say you have a good relationship with her why don’t you tell her and not have your husband in the middle. Take initiative to have that relationship with your mil. Let her know I want time with my husband and kids and if you only come here twice a month plz don’t make me feel guilty. The more you guys can talk things out there will be zero awkwardness and both of you will feel better. And also talk to your hubby that you prefer if he talked to you first before making decisions like that cuz it’s means there is respect.
@Ariana Saul she sleeps in an extra room upstairs but when she initially visits she comes to spend time with us- my sister and her husband work a lot also and when she’s off they like to hang out in the living room and watch movies, they also have a 3 yr old. I just had a baby 2 months ago so it’s a full house and we’re tired mamas. We don’t always have the energy to be hospitable and wanna spend the time we have with our family. I think my problem is that I’m too nice and I don’t wanna hurt feelings.
Does she help with the baby?
@Shemi she will hold the baby while I cook or clean and that helps a bit
Your husband is in the wrong. He needs to prioritize you and your child. If he is giving into his own mother, without even considering you, then he has his priorities messed up. If he won’t tell her no, then you can tell her no.