Do you expect the father of your kids to help in emergency for you?
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If you’re choking and potential death in the horizon why not run to a neighbours house? Not sure what anyone could have done on the phone to be honest with you and he could have been nowhere near you at the time. I don’t think I’d have called such an abusive ex partner to be honest
It depends on your relationship with your ex really. I know I could rely on my daughters dad if I needed him for either myself or my daughter but we get on and co parent well
@Danielle trust me it took ALOT for me to even press on his number. He’s the last person I would ever go to for anything but no one was picking up and I really panicked incase it got worse. Don’t worry I’ve been few emergencies where he read the messages and it was the same response in the past but calls me anytime he wants to even cry (I don’t allow him this space any more). It’s horrible as I thought to atleast help me to figure out how to get it out
@Kathryn it was so someone could be aware incase I have to go to hospital. My daughter is autistic and would have really been bad on her if I went to a neighbour she doesn’t know too well. But don’t worry I was prepared for that to be the case if it got worse
@Katie unfortunately would love for this to be the case. I’m a person who in any emergency I’m there. If he’s okay with me or if he thinks he’s on the path of having me back he would have helped but as I’ve made it clear we need to just coparent this was his response
He sounds like a typical bitter ex and I wouldn’t rely on him in any situation if I was you
No. I would call ambulance for me if I’m choking and it’s emergent. If he needed to get his kid, and he would come, maybe for that. But not for me specifically.
@Kris it wasn’t for me specifically. Human to human obviously some advice when someone is choking is normal. Father to kids or not? However it was more so he can prepare to have to get the kids incase I ended up having to call the ambulance.
If you were in England and it wasn’t severe enough for you airway to be blocked which sounds like the case, then 111 would have been who you’d call in this instance. They are that human to human advice your looking for and unlike most people they are medically trained and should the worse result from this and you do need to go to hospital then they would have been able to sort it all out for you. If your that worried about something happening to you and need someone to get the children then your first step is always to call 111 or 999 because if you did indeed have a blocked airway, you would be wasting precious time calling Tom dick and Harry which ultimately could be the difference between life and death! You can find someone to take the children after
If you're choking, death is imminant - I would have called the emergency services or ran outside for help, you've got approx 4 mins before your brain dies from lack of oxygen. I know that's not entirely the point of the post but just FYI incase something similar happens!
@Shay thank you for the advice, panic got the better of me for sure in situations where you think airways will block up so was trying to stay calm and go through all processes it says online to first get the food out while I plan next steps
@Rachel like above, thank you for the advice! Definitely if my airways were blocked up I would have ran to neighbour to call ambulance and to watch over me and the children. This was a state of panic as I’ve never experienced food stuck in oesophagus and couldn’t get it out and was worried worse can come with but was manageable with the information I got at the time
I don’t think you should look at situations of this and think of the “drama” it’s going to cause. If you’re choking you call emergency services if you can, it’s better for all of you because you know someone will come and they will take care of your kids one way or another. Do not see it as a drama because they are there to save your life because they want you alive and you surely want yourself alive for your kids. So if I was choking no I wouldn’t contact anyone else. There’s not anything anyone else can do. I also wouldn’t expect an abusive person that is still abusing me to be there for me in any scenario. As horrible as it is, they don’t care. He’s shown you even more he doesn’t care and if he doesn’t care about you, he doesn’t care for his kids. Look at the response he gave to you, imagine if that was your child that had been choking instead and after getting them to hospital imagine trying to inform him about the child. Just don’t contact him. He wants one thing
And that’s to control and abuse you. Always call ambulance first in any emergency especially for your kids. It’s life or death
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Father of my oldest, I would never ever call and would never expect him to show up. He was such a disappointment and let down through the whole relationship that I'm confident ANYBODY could do a better job in helping me than him. So, no, I would not expect him to help me in an emergency, even if it was life or death. I wouldn't even bother. We talk now and again. We're relatively cool. i just know he is not here for his child or the family we could have had, so it's a no.
@Ash I have definitely reached this point. Out of panic I called but realised after he’s always a disappointment and last person I would even want to call. It confirmed to me to never do it again but I was surprised infact at the reaction from him hence my question. Totally get you though
To me chocking is not a calling your ex situation, cause when you choke you can't breathe... let alone talk on the phone
I did, until there was an emergency and he just made it worse! I fell down the stairs a few days before our son turned one. I knew my wrist was seriously hurt (turns out I shattered it!) and called him to stay at my house with his son who was sleeping and his daughter from another relationship who was also here, whilst I went hospital. He turned up complaining, faking being sick and demanding to take the sleeping children to his new girlfriend's house. Someone the kids had never met. Safe to say I sent him packing and figured something else out. Another time his out son was being taken to hospital by ambulance for his breathing and he told me just to drop him a text when I knew what was going on 😒 now I don't call him for anything!