Post birth

My baby is nearly a week old and I’ve started feeling the baby blues, but also been feeling less love to my partner and getting quite upset when he’s taking over with feeds and I’ll say do you want me to do a change or a feed and he tells me no, but feel bad making a big thing about it, most days I’m crying, I’m telling people about him and my partner will take over or try and correct me, any advice on this?

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I’m so sorry to hear this. The first few weeks postpartum are so so overwhelming with hormone changes, life changes and lack of sleep…and having to deal with your partner being difficult on top of all that. I’m all for dads pulling their weight, but this is the time for you to bond with your baby first and foremost. Do you know why he’s taken charge with feeds?
Could you raise it with him, particularly taking over talking and correcting you when you’re talking about baby?
Your hormones will settle - I know they’re not the cause of this but they can make you extra teary x

he thinks it’s because it’s helping me but it’s stressing me and he will be the one to take him off people as I go to do it, he has helped a lot through pregnancy but I feel bad if I make him feel crappy x

Its normal to have a hormone crash and be tearful. Don't ask your partner on the times you want to do it. Have skin on skin with baby for as much time as possible it helps bonding and realises feel good hormones

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