Firsts being taken from me

It really sucks. It does. It's a sacrifice working parents make and unfortunately, firsts will be missed and it isn't always the fault of others. First haircut? Things like that are TOTALLY different, but in my opinion your sister was just trying to entertain your baby and include him in the outting. It's important for them to be apart of things at this age and interact with others. Valid feelings, just remember to give yourself and others grace. You can't be at multiple places at once and your son can't pause growing (not physically, developmentally and socially) in all areas for you to be able to see him to do it especially working. You've got this and keep in mind that you have so, so many firsts that you will experience with him. You're his mom first and foremost, he will always know your bond.

I agree with what @Danielle said 💜 and I’d add that perhaps this would be a good time to take that situation and use it as motivation to seek to level up ur income so that u can spend more time with ur baby . That’s what I’m doing now, I have a 3 yr old and a 1 yr old and I’m working on learning new skills to earn more money in less time and invest in income producing assets asap .

i’ve experienced this in a diff way, but still similar in missing firsts to someone else in the family. i had an in law take my kid to their 1st zoo visit, 1st ride at the lake, & 1st swim during gparent visits w/o my knowledge. id only hear of it after the fact & it never got easier to swallow for me. at first i lacked boundaries & thought i was overthinking it, so it built up. after she took him for his 1st haircut, i drew the line. if ppl don’t know u have an issue, they won’t see an issue! if it bothers u, i would kindly ask ur sister that you’d like to be asked! not that u don’t want her to, but to be included & f e e l included as his mother. or if u don’t want her to, tell her you’d rather her not! if she did it again after u clarified ur feelings, then that would be another issue. its hard feeling like u keep missing out, it makes sense to me <3 give yourself grace & try not to invalidate urself as much as u can! ur feelings are valid 🫶🏼

A first swing ride is not something that would ever cross my mind to ask about. I wouldn’t put that in the same category as some other firsts but unfortunately, there will be some things you miss. Would you rather her sit around and do nothing with your child? You won’t be able to control everything. If he were in daycare they wouldn’t be checking with you to make sure your baby has gone down a slide or been in a swing. It’s possible he may decide to crawl or walk on the Saturday she has him. But there will be many many first you are there for.