Abandoned

How can I cope with being abandoned by my family? It's been almost a year, I was the scapegoat of a narcissistic family dynamic, I was sexually molested as a child and my mother and sister told me at the time if I didn't want it it wouldn't have happened, there's a lot of trauma and after I became pregnant the same time as my sis shit hit the fan as they became extremely jealous and cut me off for literally no reason but jealousy, it's wild to me, and I just don't know how to shake off the sadness I go to therapy and have tried so many different things but I just feel so sad? I don't want my mother or sister or brothers etc like they were never a proper family because it was such a dysfunctional and toxic dynamic, but I want a mother, a sister, etc? Like I want what I never had? I feel like I'm grieving people that aren't even dead?

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Im so so sorry that happened. Wish I had answers for you and understand the absolute torture or being in a narc family dynamic. You have to accept that they won't change and it may not fix things but it will help with how you cope. Highly suggest seeking support on reddit (sharing experiences is so powerful) and educating yourself (check out Dr. Rahmani). Sending you strength and healing 💛

I've been there! I have a narcissist mother & narcissistic/bipolar sister. Believe me when I say YOU ARE BETTER WITHOUT THEM ! Forgive them & love them from a far! Protect your peace! You will find your chosen family ❤️ Connect with your community.. feel free to msg me.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I'm estranged from my mom's side of the family, and it's extremely sad. Especially after I became a mom. You are not alone. You will be sad for a while, and that is ok. You will come to accept that they aren't part of your life anymore and that it is ok. In time, time you will focus more on the family you have around you. You will grieve and mourn, you will be sad and cry, and all of your feelings are ok. Acknowledge all of your feelings, try not to push them away, but don't allow yourself to sit on those feelings for to long. Take your time and then move forward. Those sad feelings will come and go throughout your life, it doesn't exactly ever get easy, but it gets better. Sending you love and healing ❤️

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