My mother in law fed my baby food for the first time without me knowing

My baby has just turned 4 months, and I decided I didn’t want to start feeding food just yet, I allowed my IL to have my baby over night for the first time and to find out when I collected her she had been feeding my baby puree no one asked me! also I’m so upset that this first big mile stone has been taken from me as I wanted to do it just me baby and dad as a family, my IL said they asked my husband which puree he would prefer but he didn’t realise they would actually give it to the baby which is think is abit stupid of him! I’m not sure who to be angry with?

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I’m sorry you had this milestone taken away lovely! It does sound like a genuine misunderstanding, rather than people going against your wishes etc and purposely doing it x

Sounds like your husband dropped the ball here

I think both are to blame. Where did the idea of puree come from in the first place? I would be mad at both IL’s and my husband to be honest

his mom said as soon as she’s 4 months she needs to eat! I said no, so she was already aweare I didn’t want that to happen. I asked my husband why no one sent me videos he replied “ eveyone knows what your like and you would have kicked up a fuss” so clearly they knew I wouldn’t have liked it 😫

That is disgusting and horrible that your wishes were betrayed, respect destroyed and no one seemed to give a crap about how you feel, I wouldn't trust any of them now with my baby, don't smoother your own feelings on things for the sake of keeping peace and other people's feelings does you no good in the long run

I’m usually pretty laid back about such things - but this is properly annoying, to know that you didn’t want to start feeding yet - and to declare unilaterally at 4 months “she needs to eat”. You need someone in your corner to support you - that should be your husband. He’s unacceptable in saying that “everyone knows what you’re like”. He obviously doesn’t have a clue on the importance of waiting til 6 months.

That changes my above response, that’s completely unacceptable that they have done that knowing how you feel!

That’s sad I’m sorry that happened to you I would go mental x

Nope that would be it for me. You put so much trust in them to look after the most precious person in the world to you and in return they betrayed that trust. I can see why some might think it’s dramatic but I’m not one of those people. I’d honestly be livid!

If you gave instructions not to give baby any food then I would be fuming with both of them! As you said, this is a milestone you as the MOTHER of your child wanted to experience!

I said make sure your mom don’t try feeding her this weekend! And he’s reassuring me no don’t worry she won’t 🙄

They knew what they were doing, your MIL and your husband! Plus the fact your husband gaslighted you by saying no one sent you any videos because you would have kicked up a fuss is bang out of order!

MIL is a snake of the highest order and no way in hell would I ever trust her around my child again. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

As for your husband, is he usually such a spineless twat? Does he ever have your back or is he a two faced snake like his mother? Because you are supposed to be a team, not sleeping with the enemy! I would need to have a serious chat with him to see where his head is at. If he still sides with his mother I would be making decisions about my future based on that. If you can’t expect your husband to back you, what use is he?

I would not be allowing them to have my child again, that’s terrible especially after you’ve told them no. I’m sorry but your husband knew unless he’s really naive but I doubt it because why wouldn’t he question why she’s asking about that or even to say to you my mums just asked this, why do you think she’s asking? I’d be soooooooo angry and would lose it. I’m sorry that experience was taken from you x

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

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Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?