My mother in law fed my baby food for the first time without me knowing

I’m sorry you had this milestone taken away lovely! It does sound like a genuine misunderstanding, rather than people going against your wishes etc and purposely doing it x

Sounds like your husband dropped the ball here

I think both are to blame. Where did the idea of puree come from in the first place? I would be mad at both IL’s and my husband to be honest

@Kayleigh his mom said as soon as she’s 4 months she needs to eat! I said no, so she was already aweare I didn’t want that to happen. I asked my husband why no one sent me videos he replied “ eveyone knows what your like and you would have kicked up a fuss” so clearly they knew I wouldn’t have liked it 😫

That is disgusting and horrible that your wishes were betrayed, respect destroyed and no one seemed to give a crap about how you feel, I wouldn't trust any of them now with my baby, don't smoother your own feelings on things for the sake of keeping peace and other people's feelings does you no good in the long run

I’m usually pretty laid back about such things - but this is properly annoying, to know that you didn’t want to start feeding yet - and to declare unilaterally at 4 months “she needs to eat”. You need someone in your corner to support you - that should be your husband. He’s unacceptable in saying that “everyone knows what you’re like”. He obviously doesn’t have a clue on the importance of waiting til 6 months.

That changes my above response, that’s completely unacceptable that they have done that knowing how you feel!

That’s sad I’m sorry that happened to you I would go mental x

Nope that would be it for me. You put so much trust in them to look after the most precious person in the world to you and in return they betrayed that trust. I can see why some might think it’s dramatic but I’m not one of those people. I’d honestly be livid!

If you gave instructions not to give baby any food then I would be fuming with both of them! As you said, this is a milestone you as the MOTHER of your child wanted to experience!

I said make sure your mom don’t try feeding her this weekend! And he’s reassuring me no don’t worry she won’t 🙄

They knew what they were doing, your MIL and your husband! Plus the fact your husband gaslighted you by saying no one sent you any videos because you would have kicked up a fuss is bang out of order! MIL is a snake of the highest order and no way in hell would I ever trust her around my child again. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. As for your husband, is he usually such a spineless twat? Does he ever have your back or is he a two faced snake like his mother? Because you are supposed to be a team, not sleeping with the enemy! I would need to have a serious chat with him to see where his head is at. If he still sides with his mother I would be making decisions about my future based on that. If you can’t expect your husband to back you, what use is he?

I would not be allowing them to have my child again, that’s terrible especially after you’ve told them no. I’m sorry but your husband knew unless he’s really naive but I doubt it because why wouldn’t he question why she’s asking about that or even to say to you my mums just asked this, why do you think she’s asking? I’d be soooooooo angry and would lose it. I’m sorry that experience was taken from you x