Are my feelings valid?

Am I being unrealistic of expectations with my fiance? When I gave birth to our daughter at the end of january he wasn’t working and was an amazing help to me and was doing well with her. He then finally got a job again and when he went back to work it’s like his while ego changed. Like he hardly wants to hold his daughter or love her. He like refuses to wake up at night at help me a bit. I take care of her majority of the time bc I’m on maternity leave but sometimes I’m so exhausted and need a little help at night. This is his first baby and my third.

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He needs to help out more. You both made baby xx

I’m surprised he’s not super excited about his first baby. My partner works Monday to Saturday but on Sundays I barely hold our son unless a few times. I mean we all at the same place but my partner helps out a lot as he’s barely home all week

@Justina that’s the crazy part he wanted this baby so bad he pushed to try to conceive and everything and now that she’s here it’s like he realizes it’s not what he thought it was. I cautioned him that babies are more work then he realizes. I wonder if this isn’t what he wants anymore. I’m just so tired right now and don’t have any friends to even turn to for support. I feel lonely on top of it 😔

Ah bless you , I have friends but they all stopped talking to me because I wasn’t out drinking with the anymore lol so don’t even worry about friends but yeah I most times men get excited about their first kids . I’m so sorry this happening to you

Feelings are valid and I’m not saying this is him necessarily but a lot of men use babies as a way of trapping women… babies are a way of controlling women… sooo i mean… when men PUSH for kids I don’t necessarily trust the intention behind it… there needs to be actions of accountability and not just talk.

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