MIL keeps commenting about sending daughter to day care
Show your support
Tell her it's none of her business and you don't appreciate the comments. She maybe unaware of what she is doing Your husband will not be happy but this is going to come to a head at some point so why not sooner rather than later. I also would not be answering the phone to her on my days off
“Yes it’s so sad that your son doesn’t make enough to support our family comfortably. Maybe one day we will be able to afford for me to stay home”
Be as honest as you can be. Seems you don’t want any confrontation so try from a sympathetic standpoint. Maybe say hey, you hurt my feelings when you make those comments or something along those lines
If she would be unhappy if you weren’t in work then why is she complaining? It’s not her business and I’d tell her that every time and hang up so she gets the message if she keeps mentioning it, you won’t talk to her. Or if she mentions it tell her to go say it to her son if she thinks it’s that bad. It’s not like it’s only you in the relationship, you both made the decision. There is also a pettier way, you could just send her straight to voicemail. I don’t know if you can do contact specific but on my phone I changed it that way because of spam callers and it sends everyone to voicemail who isn’t in my contacts. But I’d definitely say try first option first, see if it makes a difference and if not then you’re not in the wrong to not answer her, you just don’t want to deal with unnecessary comments
Wait, your husband isn’t supporting you? Like telling his mother off? I’d strongly recommend talking to him & letting him know that you will limit contact with his mother. Heavy on: letting him know. I hope you and your husband can resolve things & he stands up for you.
Thankyou so much ladies. Your comments have made me feel less lonely. My husband does say something when his mother directly says these things to him but he says he won’t get in between drama and basically says I have to deal with her myself. He is ok if I cut contact with her, he doesn’t talk to my parents either. He’s not supportive but if I push him, he will call his mother and create a big scene, then his mother will in turn blame me (and make sure to tell the whole world) for causing fights. These things have happened a lot in the past. I will stop picking up her calls going forward and limit only to message. I don’t want to take drastic measure and cut contact and for that I try to keep minimal contact with her but she takes advantage of this.
As someone from the Balkans I can relate. My parents would often tell me…o poor kid going to school at the age of 3…let it live a little. Send her when she’s 7yo and let her enjoy her childhood. What they forget to notice is that they were raised by their grandparents while their parents worked so they had the time to go to different places. In our case we work all day (I work from home) and we’re not going to go anywhere. It’s either go to school, have fun with kids, socialize and learn something or stay home while I sadly pay you minimum attention cause of work. As my parents are in Europe we don’t have them here to help like their grandparents did. I know they’re not saying it with bad intentions…it’s more of pointing out the difference of how we were raised and what we deemed to be normal back then and now.