I need advice!
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Your baby your decision your rules
This is a big red flag, just politely explain but firmly say no. You’re the babies mothers and it’s protector it’s important to stand your ground.
Maybe just say you will see how you feel when the time comes, your the one in charge to make the final decision of who and when people can look after your child to help you out. I would just politely decline for now but state that if you do need the help you wouldn’t hesitate to ask him x
Big red flag. I don’t know anyone that does this. Does he look after any other kids? X
@Christie my little brother and that’s it
Simple answer is no I don’t think I’ll be ready to be away from my newborn baby. I’ll be sure to let you know when I’m ready and thanks so much for offering! (No need for apologies, there’s nothing to apologise for). If you’re happy to tell him he can visit as much as he wants then that could be a solution to let you nip out or shower etc x
You dont have to do anything you’re uncomfortable with. He will understand. How does your babies dad feel? X
3 months is still very young. If you choose to breastfeed that would pretty much be a bk anyway. Even if you don’t bf at the end of the day this is your baby and he can’t do anything you don’t want.
@Christie babies dad isn’t in the picture due to him being.. messed up if that’s the way to put it
Ah ok I see, sorry about that. But yes stick by your guns and you’ll never regret putting you and your baby first. I’d just say you aren’t sure how you’ll feel about it and you’ll see how you go xx
Your baby your decision! Don’t let others take control! You are that babies mum and you have last say. Don’t make promises as you don’t know what’s going to happen when she’s here! Just say you are unsure atm and see how it goes… even if you’ve made your mind up x