I've never felt the need to enforce "boundaries" with either my parents or his, it's just never been a thing.
I say choose ur battles .. since they live far give them some grace and try not to control everything. for soft boundaries u can say “oh I usually do this but I’ll allow this this time “ or “for you” For strong boundaries speak up ur mind respectfully and stay firm on ur decision: Feel free to make people uncomfortable so u can be comfortable U deff gotta have grace and not try to control everything that is not absolutely necessary. U should deff mention how u run things but also u are willing to allow the extended family to have leverage
Hiya! Feel free to DM me my in-laws are from overseas and am facing the same dilemma… but I’ve put some things in place which have helped.
Are you familiar with their Cultural differences? That might help figure out what appropriate boundaries are and where there needs to be an understanding between the two. Healthy boundaries to me is respecting my rules I have in regards to my son, not getting in my business with my fiancé (her son)…I can’t really think of anything else but when it comes down to it, just respect on what each person asks