I don't want to be here anymore
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Yes I agree. You need quiet time at whatever cost. How old are the kids?? Muster all your strengths and get everyone outside and moving everyday. Go for walks or errands then playground then tire them out. Earlier bedtime. Start afresh. Try to get back some alone time. On the days you stay inside introduce quiet time mornings. No noise no shouting no playing no nothing just quiet and calm everything. No screens. Wake up and have a loving chat with the kids quietly...you can ask them what they want for bf as well then y'all make it together ..quietly...then eat bf quietly... then clean up while they look for a quiet activity that y'all can do together... then do activities quietly..then snack time then after quiet mornings they can let it rip. Screen time or play time or whatever and you can get some down time too. It will be hard but it's doable.
By you acknowledging all of this and even thinking your doing bad and your not being good is beautiful in itswlf it shows the amount of effort and love you normally give and you've got within you, it shows the amazing person you are. So don't be hard on yourself, your depressed... And with the help of the creator ask him ask him everyday... Imagine yourself happy again don't give up it'll come the sun will come thr storm will past these emotions and feelings will be distant memories and I mean that. I was the same when my dad passed.
Hey I havnt lost a parent but I’ve lost my 1st husband (my daughters father, in 2021) and I have days where I just can’t seem to handle anymore! (Even right now) If you want to talk just hit me up
Sorry to hear how much you’re struggling. Know that you’re doing the best job you can right now and it’s far from a shjt job. We have high standards for ourselves and sometimes we feel we fall short when we have a lot on our plate, on top of grieving your Mother, it’s a lot. Keep going, raising kids is a marathon and you’ve hit the ‘wall’ but you’ll have better days, sorry this one hasn’t been one of them. X
You are not doing a bad job at all. You are grieving. I am still grieving for the loss of my Nan over 4 years ago now & the fact that she never got to meet my little boy. I can't imagine what it is like for you not having a Mum around to love your kids like you do & to help & support you from time to time. Do you not have any other family or friends who can help out? X
I can't express how much I understand how you feel! I lost my mum too in 2023 to cancer which absolutely sucks! I never got chance to mourn I just had to go straight back to being a mum We have zero support so most the time it's just me and my 3 year old I had to give up my job due to child care reasons therefore couldn't return to my job .. being a full time stay at home mum is hard work! It sucks and it sucks hard! I feel nothing I do is good enough . My little one is being extremely challenging at the moment and it makes me want to scream Please please message me! We can shout and scream together! Xxx
You are grieving and not having space to allow yourself to feel that pain. I can’t even imagine what you are going through. If you can I would try therapy at least once a week, put your airpods on and listen to some music whenever you are feeling at your lowest. You have to fill your cup first love specially since you are grieving. Look for low stimulation TV shows or slowly switch to music videos on TV, the kids will be fine watching TV while you recover. Be gentle on yourself 🫂
Take it day by day mamas, it’ll get better.. create a routine. Whenever your SO has an off day.. take some time for yourself. Maybe at night turn everything off ? Start bed time early, fill them up with whatever they want to eat, bathe them, let them tire themselves out in the tub and tell them it’s time for bed ! You got this mama