I need the courage to leave
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If he WANTS custody, he'll get custody unless he's Using drugs Abusive (you need proof) Seriously neglectful (you need proof)
I see. So would it be half and half? I know he will be petty with me even though he leaves me to do all decisionmaking and caring for baby whilst he is doing his own thing
The exact details would depend on your individual situation. It might be worth having a meeting with a family lawyer to find out what kind of arrangement you'd be likely to end up with if it went to court. But ideally you'd want to work something out between you as it gets very expensive once you go down the legal route.
@Sophie how do I just get up and go though? I guess I’d need to find a place first. Maybe move up north where it’s more affordable. This is really sad for my son either way
Many people end up staying with family or friends for a little while which allows them to leave straight away and then find somewhere more permanent to live. Obviously it's not an option for everyone but it's worth considering. If you do choose to move far away from your child's father just bear in mind the logistical downsides that will mean for you and your son in terms of allowing access.
He will be entitled to 50/50, you can't expect full custody
To get the courage together I'd just picture the future your son can have without the constant arguing and with a mum who's the best version of herself! However you need to prepare yourself that your husband will have the right to see your son unless you have evidence that he's been abusive, for example (and maybe even then he may be granted access). So it's highly unlikely that you would have your son full time, unfortunately.