Potty training new mom advice

Hey my daughter is 2.5 years old and has shown all signs of needing to be potty trained. I’m just at a loss of where to start and what to do, how long do I make her sit on her potty and how often? I’m also stressed because I have a lot going on and I don’t even know if I can devote the time needed to potty train her with my busy schedule. My spouse is full time manager at his job so all things dealing with our kids falls on me. Ugh I just wish I had help but I don’t have family or friends that help with my our kids. It’s just me and my spouse when’s he’s home. Please help me make a schedule for my daughter to be potty trained and tell me what to do…

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The oh crap potty training book is a helpful tool.

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I definitely recommend the Oh Crap Potty Training book, too. I read it and feel much more confident. I'm starting this Friday, so I can't attest to how well it works, but I've heard great things about the method, and reading the book will definitely make you feel more prepared and confident.

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I’m on the same page 😩

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Coming from a mom who is currently on week 3 of potty training my 2.5 girl, we tried 2 separate times when she was younger and decided it was best to revisit and I am so glad we did because this time around by day 3 everything was clicking for her.
Start on a weekend when you have nothing going on. Get the potty seat, step stools, stickers, pull-ups, undies all that ready to go. I did do lots of previous research including the oh crap book. I decided to take bits and pieces from everything I've read and make it work for our life.
We started with just undies and a shirt, every 30mins she would sit on the potty until I could get a idea on just how often she actually needed to go you have to watch them like a hawk and learn her cues. Keep the carpet cleaner, clorox wipes and paper towels handy, clean up accidents while she is on the potty.
Potty training is a long process, you both are learning, expect delays and regressions not perfection. Don't forget to celebrate the wins.

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Following as well!

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I felt exactly the same. I just took him every 30 mins, didn’t matter if he showed signs or not. By day 3 I could read his cues and he had it down. Just be consistent, and once you start, do NOT revert back to diapers. I gave ours away so I had no choice. 1 seems kind of young, but I know old school moms did it as young as 1. Good luck .

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We did pretty much one thing from what everyone has said above. It’s not a 3 day process and you’re done. It’s not a week process and your done. If anyone has had that success amazing for them. Don’t beat yourself over it. Here’s my list and what our timeline looked like :

1. If we were home we were naked on the bottom.
2. We had a toddler seat on the big toilet and a little toilet in whatever room we were playing in.
3. She helped me pack away all the diapers and give them away.
4. We said goodbye to her changing table.
5. We let her pick out her new underwear.
6. Major debatable, but it worked for us. We used pull ups in public until she would ask us to go pee in public herself instead of us always asking to go sit on the potty.
7. Kept travel potty’s in both cars. (Still keep them there and we pull over 100% of the time she says she needs to go potty so she learned to trust us)
8. Never scolded for an accident, we always talked calmly about it and what we could have done.

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9. One day the light bulb clicked and she never looked back.
10. We did do a sticker chart and there was a potty treasure chest she could choose from at the end of the week when she got all her stickers. If she had accidents she didn’t get all of her stickers and could not get a prize. This only took one-2 weeks for her to never have another accident. Haha. We also made sure the prizes were bigger prizes. I had gone after Christmas and did clearance shopping for some larger toys that I knew would be motivating.

She was 2.5 on Valentine’s Day and has been fully trained for a little over a month except for night time. She still sleeps in our bed so pull ups it is until she’s dry every morning haha.

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This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

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Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
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